About 9 months ago, I was re-organized and got 3 new teams added to my staff. 2 led by males and one by a female. One of the male leaders seems to be extremely unwilling to ‘listen’ to me as a woman and his new manager. I’ve had conversations with my leadership team as well as HR. But has anyone navigated this situation and we’re you able to gain the respect you deserved?

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Watch “The Closer”’- all of the first season.

You will not succeed by simply getting rid of prickly people.
Be the leader you know yourself to be.
Don’t shy away from a direct and honest conversation with him.
Do you want him to respect you or to like you? Don’t confuse the two.
Don’t take it personally - that’s a hard one, especially for us women.

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Fire him. He won’t change, and he’s already spreading disrespect for you and all women throughout your organisation.

I navigated the issue. He wasn’t happy with the transfer he felt demoted and his responsibilities were reduced under me. Had to build his trust in me to help him get it back on the path he wanted took a few months to work through the issues I had to be clear on what I can and can’t do and I earned his trust and respect. Then he broke his back working. I saw the change happen in him. Best advice start fresh everyday.

Have you talked to him about it?

Dealing with this as well. The only thing that is constant in his work is undermining me, being rude and trying to take over my job. He will literally interrupt me when I’m talking and try to take over meetings and customer interactions. He acts dismissive and talks over me. I don’t have the authority to fire or discipline him and talking isn’t working. During the last interaction where he tried to take over, I resorted to being rude back to him and told him that I’m in charge and he needs to learn his place. I doubt that will work and I’m sure we will have a loud blow out at some point.

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