Anyone else have trouble separating who you are from what you do? I think a lot of our generation built our self identity around our work. If I take my work away, I'm not really sure who I am.

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You do something for 20 or 30 years and it’s hard to separate it from who you are. There’s core you, and the layers on top added over time. Nothing wrong with that.

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Work has been a diminishing part of who i am for about 5 years now for personal and professional reasons that are mostly good. And I'm glad for that.

I have interests and hobbies and competitive/challenging sports i participate in. (I do wonder what happens when I can no longer keep up in those btw, but I think it'll be okay and I have time yet.)

There's consistent and growing recognition that people need purpose outside of work, particularly after work ends. As a man, I feel this doubly. Our purpose can be a hobby or endeavor, family, charity work or whatever works for you. I'm thinking regularly about what happens when I'm done with this stage but not yet sure.

I encourage you to find time for yourself now to think about interests and aspirations. Test and develop some even if they don't stick. Give them a real chance though!

It's easy to think we are our work but we don't have to be. There's a world of people, places, experiences, challenges and joys for each of us. Maybe, consider and test something new during our quarantine.

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I am perfectly fine with who I am. Yeah, I’ve been in tech consulting for twenty years, but I am more than that.

Husband, father, secular person who likes to be with his family and (pre Covid) visit different places. That is who I am. It helps I have a wife who has been a perfect fit for me these last 22 years. Keeps me grounded.

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Worked for my first company for 18 years. My career and identity were much too closely interwoven. Living in a small company town made it worse. Living in DC, it’s easy to have a life independent of career with unrelated social circles and activities. It’s easier to compartmentalize my job now.

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