Weird question alert: When did your daughters start “developing?” Noticing signs in my soon to be ten year old, which is a little concerning, as my sister has huge...tracks of land. Would rather my daughter didn’t have to deal with what I remember she had to. Anyone remember?

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In my sample size of 3, yes. But it's not much of a study.

I try not to spend much energy on things I can't control. You focusing on it risks showing to her. And she's almost certainly thinking about it more than enough for two.

But hey. I'm just an uncle, really.

Good luck

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Gold standard book is Care and Keeping of You. I think they have one now for younger girls and then one for older girls. Easy to find on Amazon

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I'm just an uncle but here's what I can tell you from a weekend away with friends.

Three girls, 12-14. The youngest was 100% undeveloped girl. One 14 yo had started. The other 14 yo was mixed Hispanic and was fully developed physically if not emotionally/mentally.

Her mum tells me Hispanics often develop younger.

I think you meant matured mentally, right?

So ten would be early, then.

10 is not abnormal for early signs. My daughter started around then and then went on to get her period around 12 1/2. She’s now just a few months away from 15 and physically mature w an A/B cup. She was probably one of the first of her friends she start to develop and get her period. But many of them now have definitely passed her in terms of size and curviness!. My family has women of all sizes so you will just have to wait and see but starting early does not necessarily mean large size later. Her pediatrician can reassure you about age/development. She’s fine! There are some great books out there for young girls to help them understand puberty and to help them maintain a strong self-esteem.

Thank you. If you can think of the books/authors, I’d appreciate it.

My daughter at 9. She even started menstruating at that age as well.

My niece had her first menstrual cycle at the age of 9 - as a single parent my brother (her father) was freaked out and totally unprepared, lol

How old are these young ladies now and are they super-developed? I’m getting that early doesn’t mean busty, but given my family’s history, I suspect some correlation.
Thanks, by the way. I know this is a dumb question.

Mine is an adult. Didn't over develop just early.

Once she gets her period, it will slow the height growth.

I got my period at 11, so did my sister. Both our daughters got it at 9. It usually shows up a year after her nipples first "bud" out.

I also second the book, "The Care and Keeping of You". I also read through it with my boys when they were 10 so they could understand what was happening to the girls around them.

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