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Your family means more than your politics. Set some ground rules… and your priorities. Of course, if your parents don’t support you that’s an entirely different issue. If the, or you, insist on making your politics a priority, that’s a choice they/you make. How they vote shouldn’t matter.
Fair point for sure. I’m fortunate not to personally know anyone like that - as far as I know 😳
You people are crazy…. Cutting off family for having different political views is borderline sociopathic and cult-like behavior. I disagree with my family on politics, religion, and other matters but we love and respect each other at the end of the day and that’s what counts. A lot of you in the comments are suffering from terminal Reddit-brain and need to delete social media. Trump is the first president in US history to enter office in favor of gay marriage, by the way
I’m very against Trump but I think you should never alienate your family for politics. You should sit down and talk to your parents. Tell them what you think and listen to what they say.
What are these other things that OP’s parents think matter more than them? If OP’s parents are willing to prioritize other things over their child, it sounds like it’s the parents that are doing the alienating. It’s more about values than it is politics. If your parents show that they don’t value you or who you are, that’s on them.
The main thing that I think could reconcile the parents actions is maybe the fact that they’re convinced that the incoming administration will not have the effects that OP claims it will have. Maybe they think the threats to the community are overstated or progressive fear-mongering. That’s something that is worth talking about because it’s not necessarily as much of an expression of values, and could be argued to be more about politics.
Yes. And so did I.
From experience, gay men can be misogynistic, discriminatory, and racist, especially the white and Asians (regardless of political affiliation) Aren’t these similar to the ideologies of Nazism? Yes.
We should be fighting these issue as well, but people justify it as their preference. Ok cool, my preference is to be around people who respect me regardless if they are a trump or Harris supporter. To me, it’s the same concept. I could be wrong tho.
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I cut seeing them in person in 2016. No regrets.
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No one in my immediate family except for one of my adult nephews (23) voted for trump, at least that’s what they say. He is still young and boys his age are obsessed with trump. That being said, I wouldn’t alienate family who voted for trump bc of the gay issue, but just because anyone who votes for trump has serious character issues. I excuse my nephew though bc he doesn’t know any better.
I didn’t vote for trump but know a lot of people that did, even if not enthusiastically, and because the option was so poor. That last time I was excited for a candidate was Obama (2008 only) and Buttigieg. So you’re trying to tell me that l have a better “character” because they (along with slightly more than half the country) voted for trump? And you believe that thinking demonstrates good character on your part?
I don't vote on identity politics. I'm not a fan of Trump, but I voted for him. We survived 4 years of him without getting sent to concentration camps or having gay marriage illegal. It's not really a big deal at least not enough to alienate your family.
My entire family and partner’s family voted for Trump except for my partner and me. We’ll still be visiting for the holidays. Their voting isn’t personal, although it feels like it to you. This is not me gaslighting you either.
Also a good point! But if you have already talked to them and provided them with your perspective and evidence to support it, and they are willfully ignoring it, then I feel that begins to move from incompetence/stupidity/ignorance to disregard/devaluation of you personally.
I’m grateful that my immediate family members are on the same page as me but I’ve pretty much ended communication with all the extended MAGA family.
Obviously it’s a super personal choice but just know that not wanting to be around them is valid. Holidays can be difficult enough and adding that extra layer most of the time just isn’t worth it.
Sending love.
They're obviously in the early stages of dementia. Treat them like the idiots they are - buy them gifts to reflect that and talk to them softly as if they were children.
Every one’s personal circumstances are different with respect to family’s voting and how you interact/engage with them. That is your decision alone, and truly, only you will know what is best.
I am in a similar situation and have already written off my Dad’s side of the family - mainly because they are racist and homophobic, notwithstanding their voting behavior. My mom’s side is Republican, all of whom voted for Trump. I am really struggling with the same situation on what to do with them. Mentally speaking, I am not ready to isolate myself from all family, but I have not spoken to them (text, yes) since the election. I am going for Christmas to see if my decision changes.
Good luck. And I’m sorry for what you’re going through. You will know what to do, however long that may take.
My parents voted for Trump and it’s disappointing but not surprising nor is it new (they’ve done it before). I relate to you when you say that your mom loves her son, but not her gay son. However, I don’t take their vote personally because as a cis gay man in a progressive city and state, I think the consequences for me are likely not to be devastating and I know they think the same. Their voting will likely affect other members of the community more than me and that does speak to their values but not as much to how they value *me*.
Disowning is the right choice, given what you’ve shared. Family is very important but not at an unacceptable price. You can make your own family even if they’re not connected by blood.