I'm a product engineer and it's hard to turn off work mode at the end of the day, I think of how products *should* be packaged when I'm shopping and can't understand why my wife doesn't care 🤷

When Peter says I just want to be in a relationship where we give more than what we get. Story of my life. Why is that so hard?

So my brother doesn't talk to me for 6 months.   (I had offered my lake house guest space to my cousin who said yes instead of my brother who didn't know if he could come nor when he might know if he could come, how unfair of me).

On Thanksgiving day mom arrives and tells me that brother might come by in an hour.  He had ignored my invite weeks ago.  (Uh ok, sure).

Continued...

I have been teaching K for 5 years, but have been in early childhood education teaching preschool and first grade for 20 years. I am seeing such a change in the way my students are coming into school now and it is not a good change. My kiddos lack fine motor, gross motor, and basic language skills. They lack self control and emotion management. They are not ready to learn. They don’t even know how to sit down and eat snack at their tables! For the first time ever, I have students who have never

Men marry their second mom.

37M- How to start a (mutual agreed) divorce process in California? Can I e-file? Do I need a lawyer?
(No kids, no joint assets, about 4.5 years into marriage)

Married white female / 35 / got that covid 19 (extra pounds😅) seeking a human being in these trying times for taking out trash and doing the chores i don’t feel like. would consider a fake marriage for citizenship purposes assuming you are a practicing lawyer

Hi all, my ten-year-old recently informed us that they’re non-binary. I raised my kids on queer culture so I’m actually kinda proud. I’m not non-binary myself though so I don’t know how it feels to be 10 years old and NB. How did you feel at that age? Any advice for a parent?

I just wanted to reach out and let you all know I understand how tired and beat down we all feel at this point in the year. I’m feeling it too. I also know exactly how students can try us. What I’m working on every day though is to see my kids as God does… not the kids that know how to push buttons and drive me crazy, but as the beautiful lives they are, all deserving of the best we can give them every day. I know it’s not easy, but that’s what I’m working on.

I've been working from home for the last six months and had this constant urge to eat treats I find anywhere around the house. My two daughters find it humorous, but it has rarely made me feel good. Kindly, what can I do to stop?

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing

How to deal with parents that want to know everything but you don’t want to tell them everything because you want to loose your job?

Is anyone else crashing hard today? It’s almost 5pm and I haven’t left my bedroom. My kids are fending for themselves and a little confused about why I haven’t come out. Is it depression or am I just burned out? I switched to middle school after the 4th week of school. Some of my students are so disrespectful and even cruel. Do I need to quit my job or do I just need some r and r?

Trying to set family expectations and would love thoughts on 2 things. 1. How long after baby will I be ready for visitors beyond our parents? I’m thinking a few weeks. 2. Our 3 grandmothers are 1-3 hour flights away (3 diff places) and cannot travel. When will we be ready to take baby to see them? I’m thinking 4-6 months but that would also be flu/RSV season. Can’t predict the future but family is already talking about trips and I want to set expectations and do what is best for baby. TIA!!

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Hi i lost majority of my money in the stock market. I married and promised my family that I will not make the mistake I made 7 years ago. Gambling. Is this an addiction I have. I keep selling stocks and taking loses buying other stock hoping it will recover but never did and sell again taking loses and buy again. It now sink in to me. I borrow personal loan hoping that the market will do k and I pay it back but I even lost that. I can't stop crying that I hurt the one I love the most my family.

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

Is Argyle, TX good place to buy home and raise family?

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

TC check for NYC in-house lawyers. I'm 9 YOE in financial services with 300 TC. 230 salary with 70k bonus.

What role “generally” pays more at Google? Product Manager or Sales Engineer?

Can Virtusa revise the offer letter after accepting as well?

Is Europe still attractive?

Context:
War and its impact on fuel (Winter is coming)
Cost of living
Unstable political situation
Pessimistic future for next 1 year

Hi all, require a referral for Wipro for a particular job id. Please DM or reply to connect. Thanks in advance!

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

Happy Birthday Holly!!

Had heated call with my SM . SM told me to, "pull up" and that he would find out if I was, "really bout that life". What does this mean?? TIA

Hello,

Would anyone be kind enough to help refer me to Google EBP?

Thank you in advance.

I'm in finance/tech FPA, looking to go back to the defense industry for a 25% increase in TC. But wanted to see if I should leverage the new salary with current company to see if they'll match.

Background: got a promotion at current company that didn't come with sufficient increase . After stating my case I was told it would be evaluated next October, which is what prompted the initial job search.

Current TC 103K [88/15], offer 125k base [+discretionary bonus].

Hello Future Sharks,

No response from Ericsson HR, after salary discussion. Even he confirmed the salary break up over mail. Is it common practice thr. Was very excited to join the organisation

Hi fishes,
After how many days of virtual onboarding Ericsson ask to collect laptop?

Please reply

Got offer from HCL and cognizant. Wondering which one to join? Cognizant offering 19 and HCL offering 21.

Over the last couple of months I’ve interviewed for a number of jobs and made it to second and third round interviews but never got an offer. My last interview was on Monday and I got feedback that I did not get selected because it did not seem like I was a a team player. Ive got three interviews coming up and l am wondering how I can improve my chances of getting an offer. Any ideas are welcome. I need a new job like yesterday.

How do PE exits look like for emerging market funds in Middle East (e.g Abraaj group type firms)

Recommendations for best suits in Dubai? Good quality but not 10k either.

Done with final interview round of BCG for lateral placements and the HR has asked for a call for communicating final result. Generally they do this for communicating yes or no? Super anxious!

I want to find people who have made working 10+ hours norm in consulting. Seriously man...

What are some red flags to watch out for in a company?

I keep fighting with the product managers on my team, who keep assigning me new features to build without checking first if I had the bandwidth for it. How do I communicate this politely?

Im a Design Engineering from Mexico but Im also an American citizen, I would like to know how can I get my wet-stamp and if I need it… I have my degree from Mexico but I’m not not familiar with the process I have to follow to work as an Engineer in the States

I've noticed that the engineers keep their mouths shut whenever they're asked for feedback, but when they're alone, they talk about how much they wish they could change management.

Why is that?

Do you ever find that you talk to people outside of engineering about your job and they have no idea what you're talking about?

My company is trying to get us all to vaccinate, even though I work remotely. Is this unconstitutional?

Any Bridge Engineers/Structural Engineers in here? I got my PE this year and have 5 YOE in TX + an MS. What sort of raise would you expect for receiving your PE working in a consulting firm? I am EOR on a number of structures in development, I manage EITs and Drafters (within projects; I'm not a supervisor), and am doing a lot in general. I'm at 78k currently, which is apparently still in the upper range of EIT salaries per a job posting in CO. I'm thinking of 15% (5% merit, 10% PE). Any ideas?

What is the dollar amount you're willing to take more to go back to 5 days a week, 8 to 5 in office?
1. From fully remote job / position / condition
2. From 2 days in 3 days remote condition / position / job

What's the best way to approach a manager about a performance review? I've been at my company for 2 years, and I want to make sure I'm doing everything right.

Only a few of the engineers I've met have been antisocial, and it seems like such people are represented fairly evenly across different careers. I'm not really sure why that misconception still exists

Hello, who can help me?
I am interested in knowing how much an oilfield engineer earns. I currently have a job offer from a medium-sized company, but as a recent graduate, I don't know if the pay is adequate.

Is it true that less than 20% of engineers are women, even when there are so many programs specifically focused on getting females into STEM fields? It seems like it should be more evenly distributed

What you didn't know about engineering...

I’m geotechnical engineer, but I couldn’t get a good position to allow me to learn more especially, I want to turn to design and softwares , any recommendations please

Thomas J. Watson (IBM) said "the way to succeed is to double your failure rate" and that's always stuck with me

Which engineering is the best and why? I am an electrical engineer and I am sure that my engineering is the best career because it is the most difficult to study and at the same time we are the ones in charge of moving the world.

How do you deal with a senior member of the team that doesn’t value your input? I’d love to be more involved but I feel like I’m not given a chance to

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

Do you ever regret your career choice? I’m beginning to realize I may not have wanted to be a mechanical engineer after all. What other career options are there for me with my current degree?

What’s something you learned about engineering only after you got your first job in the industry?