F*****-up story…please be constructive (but also open & direct)
With my wife for 14 years, 2 kids under 8y - both under a lot of pressure bc Covid/work/private life/… and have been (unconsciously) running away from our couple not working “since a long time” (dixit my wife). We want to try and fix it, but I also met someone new (not sure if she would even want me) and wondering if it’s worth fixing it (since we are trying/running/avoiding it for years) - just worried about the kids…any advice

Anyone else frustrated by colleagues abusing WFH? I was hoping COVID would show that we’re capable of working from home as an option, but partners are getting annoyed that people are doing things like grocery shopping and getting their oil changed in the middle of the workday.

Tomorrow they are requiring masks again and I was almost in tears when I found out. We have been mask free (recommended) since June and I feel like we are being muzzled again. I am vaccinated, frustrated, and have been off of antidepressants since March. I don’t even want to go into work tomorrow. Anything is better than being virtual and I am trying to look at the bright side, but moving backward still burns. We have parent-teacher conferences coming up and I am hoping that it’s temporary.

Any recommendation for a divorce lawyer? Anyone experience with a divorce. 😔 can’t believe marriage is failing after all these years

Is there anyone here that is a physician advisor? If so, how do you like it?

Moving from T2 to McKinsey. How do vacation requests work? I have family and friends getting married this fall in weddings delayed because of covid, but I’ll just have started so wanted to get a sense of how realistic taking vacation this fall would be and how to approach taking it (e.g. mention to HR, staffing). TIA!

Today Pfizer announced that trials show that their vaccine is 100% effective for teens ages 12-15. Do you think most of our students will get it for next year?

I think our pup has kennel cough :( waiting for the vet to call me back but until then - anyone have experience in this or have a way to make pup more comfortable? Huge, hacking coughs

I searched all the bowls and couldn’t find a cycling group. So, here I am, member zero of Cycling in Advertising. Welcome. Let’s make this a place where experts, novices and everyone in between can share experiences and advice about all things cycling *road, mountain, cross or unicycle. Pics of your gear is encouraged.

How is the work life balance for Data science role in CFR at Amex?

Honest confession: my life pre and post-covid was pretty much the same. What can I say? I'm a homebody!

Has anyone been to Costa Rica (Tamarindo) recently? Are things open with COVID? Did you feel safe? Thanks!

The restaurant I ordered from once in the middle of nowhere Michigan sends me an email outlining their actions to combat Covid-19. Meanwhile, LA fitness seems dirtier than usual.

Hi i’m a first year college student, right out of high school, I live on my own off campus and I currently work at a fast food place because it works so well with my schedule, (i mostly work nights after class and weekends) i am majoring in pre-med and have no clue what job i should be doing now? I don’t get paid well and need to find a better place to work but I don’t know what i should be doing? Should i become a cna or a phlebotomist so i at least have a skill for the next four years? help 😭

Looking for advice... 5 months ago I went from Higher Education (HE) Law Firm. I was so excited to move on and was offered about $16K more in my salary.

Today I find myself not excited about my current job and since the firm is much smaller than my last job in HE I feel like there is less growth opportunities. Every day I want to message my old manager about coming back but my wife doesn't think I should primarily because of the stress I went through. Tbh I miss the stress and workload (cont.)

Hey hey all
Any tips on how to eat desi and healthy. Want to drop from 70 to 60 and get back my fighting bod before my non-existent dil mil dates come into existence.

I am so tired of my sister and mom, and the pressure they apply on me to get married, 32 year old female and I have not met someone yet. I was in a relationship last year for a year and he turned out to be a very mean person and they now don’t trust me at all and want me to marry the first nice guy I go on a date with even if I have no attraction at all, and if I go on a couple of dates and I don’t feel it, they question my judgement. I feel like dying from the pressure.

Does anyone have a home gym on top of carpet? Had a garage gym built for powerlifting before moving and now contemplating building a gym in a spare carpeted room of a new house.

Online suggestions are to basically construct a platform with stall mats over plywood over the carpet. Worried about any stability issues with heavy squats and deadlifts. Anyone use this set up or have recommendations?

Senior engineer making 135k and I was offered a promotion to engineering manager after completing a development plan. Near the end of the plan and I expect compensation talks to start soon. Based on some research around Boston and my role in the company, I feel 165k plus 10-15% bonus is fair. Nonetheless, first time going through something like this and asking for thoughts and comments. Thanks!

I have my annual review next week. Starting my 7th year at the current job. 13+ years in the field. But my current company is a nonprofit. They are great. But annual raise has always been 2%. So as a tenured SLP, I feel quite underpaid. But I honestly don’t know what is fair - especially for the region (Midwest) and in my speciality (pediatric outpatient rehab). Does anyone have any advise?

Anyone in S&C at level 9? I got a 5% raise and 8% bonus.

Currently working as a finance analyst II for a fortune 100 company in a corporate finance role. I'm looking for a job where I can utilize my soft skills more, whether that's in sales (tech or medical), consulting as a business development representative, or some sore of client relationship role for an investment bank. I have about 2 years of full-time experience. Any recommendations for exit ops?

Hi fishes,
I have interviewed for Commerce Cloud SMTS. Results are positive. What base pay range should I expect from Salesforce? YoE 7yrs.

So for those of you who are in learning and development: what are trainers making now days? Interested to know salary & years experience! TIA

Can I ask for a slight increase ($5K) in salary if I already signed an offer letter? Their highest threshold was $5K more than what the offer was. If so, how do I go about it?

What is the chance of getting a UK visa sponsorship by investment banking clients for analyst/ client manager roles? What is their average salary in market?

Thoughts on Citi's Leveraged Portfolio Group at the Analyst level? I'm curious if anyone has additional details on the group for an Analyst spot. What does the group focus on in terms of work, what are hours like, decent exit Ops, interview process etc? I'm currently an Analyst in an industry specific Corporate Banking group at a competitor of Citi so I have experience underwriting HY transactions and portfolio management.

How much in hand if 12 lpa package in TTL

Is it possible to land a financial analyst position with only 6 months of experience in audit? I tried to stick it out w/ B4 but I don’t think I can do it anymore. I’m interested in duties like budgeting/forecasting, but haven’t come across very many entry level positions. I’m mostly seeing entry level jobs that are called “financial analyst” but include duties like JE/reconciliations. I don’t have SQL/Tableau experience either... so not sure if I just need more experience in a diff role first?

Hi, I am at 14 LPA. This is my first switch of my career. How much should I negotiate for an L4 level HR Partner role at Amazon? Is getting 20 LPA possible as per their hiring grid for L4 level?

I am a direct private lender. I offer fast and reliable loan at 5% interest rate with no prepayment penalty. I can close a deal within 3-7 working days.

Do you have any project/deals that needs 100% funding?

-Jeremy

Hi. I have cleared tech round for Deloitte India as a mulesoft Developer. My current CTC is 8 LPA. How much should I fill for expected CTC so they just don't reject me right away?

Hello Fishes,

I have been offer a 70k euros as base salary + bonus + visa sponsorship+ relocation allowance almost 8k euros for a MNC in Ireland. I have 7.4 years of experience. Kindly guide me if the offer is decent or I can renegotiate for a higher offer!?

Stack - cyber security
Domain - automobile

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

I think I want to be in relationship, but I fear that I actually am just lonely and not actually ready for relationship.
I desperatly want someone that I can spend time with, laugh with, and tell good news to amongst so much else.
I don't know what to do or if anything can be done...

Thoughts anyone?

These dating apps. ARGH! Someone “likes” you (takes the time to do that) then never messages you back. I don’t understand.

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

Longest dry spell? Single people only!

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

Does anyone ever feel any insecurity about how they compare to their partner? Eg partner is smarter, hotter, more outgoing, etc

Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

Asker outers- make reservations. I’m tired of going to dinner or drinks and finding out my date’s plan is winging it and the place doesn’t have space. Make a reservation!! It takes one min!!

So much baggage brought into the relationship. 2 years in and just discovered a whole lot more. Its been mentally extremely difficult and it’s changed me as a person. Just venting but feel hopeless and I know my SO is suffering. Wish there was a solution but I’m losing hope

Any success stories out there of couples who come from different socioeconomic backgrounds? I’ve heard this difference (statistically) can be a huge barrier to success in a relationship. I’ll add more context in the comments if it helps.

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Need some advice. Ive been with my GF for 3.5 months now. I’ve caught my GF in multiple lies regarding her sexual/relationship history. When caught, her first reaction is anger at me for asking about her past too much, etc. but eventually she becomes quite sorry and apologetic. She says I shouldn’t care about her past, but I feel that it is important, and I communicate my questions as soon as they come up. I really like her, and I know I could be less curious, but the lying hurts. Thoughts?

Men- if you text a girl you “like” but have never asked out on a date that you missed her and she responds “you could ask me out on a date”. How would you respond?

Been dating for a little over a year, but she hasn’t introduced me to her family yet. I don’t have any plans for thanksgiving this year, and she didn’t invite me to spend the holiday with her family (local). Is it still too early or is it a red flag?

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

My boyfriend is in love with me after 9 months of dating and I don’t feel the same. I like him, but I dont get excited when I’m going to see him. I don’t know what’s wrong or what changed for me.. what do I do

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.