Current position has no option for growth. I've been told, you do great work & we don't want to lose you but the structure of the practice doesn't allow for it. So I applied to another company.

3rd & final interview is Friday. After some thought I told my current firm & said my preference would be to stay with them if there was a path upward. They say they're trying to make it work.

I feel guilty for stressing out the firm & being demanding. Have I screwed up here? Am I a jerk?

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Nope. If it feels right to move, you should. The firm won’t think twice if they need to cut you.

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Pretty words. Get it in writing about what they’re going to do to meet your needs. Chances are they’re just saying what you want to hear.

Speaking from experience. I stayed because they said they’d find a way to meet my demands. That fizzled out within 3-6 months. I was gone within 18 months and haven’t looked back.

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They told you the truth the first time… leave. Other firms will have growth opportunities, just have to ask that during the interview but make sure they have current employees that can attest to the growth they’re telling you. I’ve been at my current firm 10 years and I have moved up in supervising/managing multiple times and there’s still a path higher if I want it. All about communication.

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Absent a law degree, there is little to no long term room for professional growth as a paralegal in any law firm, except salary growth. If you want growth you need to go in-house and grow there.

Don’t worry about the law firm, they will be fine.

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That's what this position would be. Current title is "paralegal assistant" but I am doing the same tasks as the paralegals on the team & have the certificate.

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Sometimes you need to shove it in the other guys face to make them go 'ah shit, they were being serious'...

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Many thanks to all of you for taking the time to reply!

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A path to a higher title or just or more salary?

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Both - substantially higher salary and title.

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Not being a jerk and no reason to feel guilty. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to advance in your career. I would get an employment agreement with your current firm before you decide to turn down the other job too.

I don’t think you are a jerk at all. I would much rather hear from someone who’s leaving about what they need and what they want rather than simply getting their notice of termination. Bottom line is take what’s better for you

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