Daily Reflection:

A TURNING POINT

July 11
A great turning point in our lives came when we sought for humility as something we really wanted, rather than as something we must have.

TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 75

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

I’m generally not a beggar but figured it was worth a shot: Does anyone have two United Club passes that are going to expire soon and you’re willing to share?

Is it fair to say once you’re an LS consultant you can always fall back to a tier 2,3 firm? For context I’m looking to go from consulting to a hospital implementation role.

PwC 🐠: Did you end up signing the green card repayment agreement? Is there a way around it? Feels extremely restrictive, basically looking at 5 - 7 yrs if I want to avoid repayment

So recently my SO has been accusing me of being in control of when we are intimate (sex and cuddling). She says that every time she wants to I say no - and whenever I want to - she says yes. So it's by default doing whatever I want when I want. It's a gross exaggeration of what's happening - but does anyone ever deal with something like this? How do you say no to something like that - without your partner thinking you're just looking out for yourself or you're controlling?

Any thoughts on how to handle working with coworkers who are very friendly/well-liked by most but are utterly mediocre at what they do and just want to coast? Makes me feel like I’m the difficult one.

Anyone have a standing desk recommendation between the Fully Jarvis vs Uplift V2 vs Autonomous Smartdesk 2? Leaning towards the Jarvis but the Autonomous one seems 50% cheaper, but can’t really tell what the drawbacks are according to their website/reviews

What ever happened to choco tacos :/

Erm, very politely, why was I added to this bowl?

Hi! I had an interview from a company as a graphic designer. They have moved my application forward and gave me a designer task. I have been following up and they always said that they are still reviewing all the other task from the candidates. They said they will give an updates twice after following up every week. I had the interview and task 3 weeks ago. Do you guys think that I still have a chance?

Thank you ❤️

….. I exclusively use cap locks to capitalize words instead of shift

Last night I slept over my boyfriend’s apt. We are sexually active together but this time he woke up at 4/5am and started fingering me and eating me out. I was somewhat awake but I don’t know how to feel about this. Thoughts?

How do you track your progress towards goals?

I usually write down my reflections and goals in the notes app, but inevitably (after 1-2 months) i break my habit and fall off the wagon. I’m wondering if people have suggestions on how they stay on track

What would you have done if you were working with Derek Chauvin when *that* happened?

Hello fishes,

I have 2.5+ years of exp in Firewall, Proxy, Endpoint Security and SOC operations environment.
Currently I am working in a Datacenter, and am looking for a switch in same domain.
Kindly help me with referrals.

My Notice period is 90 days.

Heyy Fishers,

I am looking for an opportunity in the Consulting Field and keeping an open mind as I am too keen to work on projects and solve problems.

I have 8 months experience in strategic and risk role in banking and want to expand my domain knowledge of other industries

If anyone can refer me it would be greatful!!

Hello Fishers,

In TCS, My base location is Hyderabad and nearest office location is Delhi. As WFO started I want to join nearest office but dont have Icard. HR is saying that Icard will be available only from base location.
What should I do now?

How to transfer PF amount from HCL Trust PF to non trust PF account?
HCL Technologies

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.