Daily Reflection 1/21

No one is active in this bowl. Idk why are they here. No body responds to anything ux related

Looking for referrals to get into a fully remote HR role in fintech after working in government for 12 years. Over 10 years as an HRBP/Sr and 2 years in a leadership role. Have my PHR and CCP. Love comp but my experience is limited to a smaller organization (500).

HR and Hiring manager : where do you see in next 5 years.

Me : well if you give good hikes and promotion money money and good work life balance then i will be still working with you. otherwise i will switch whenever i want and sadly i will not be with you after 5 years.

Me-1 Hr-0

How long do offers vs rejections take post interview ?

I am considering paying for a coach of online service to aid in my interview prep for McKinsey. Specifically, I am looking at programs where I have access to others to practice with. Looking for opinions/thoughts/recommendations?

I always buy the same clothes (color and pattern) over and over again. So in all my pictures I look like I’m wearing the same clothes since I was 21😂. But I just buy new ones every year 😈🧐.

Hello everyone am looking for Side hustle , anything works driving ,plumbing ,construction etc anything works just hit me up and I I’ll make time to get it done for you thnx 💪

Is reaching out on Linkedin the best way to contact a recruiter, or should I look for their professional email?

Anyone here with experience as a Product Manager? I’ve close to decade of consumer lending experience including Sales/Advisory, Supervisor and Underwriting. I have have been looking to pivot into a more impactful role this year. I am due for an interview for a Product Manager next week. The company ticks all my boxes but the job description a bit vague. I will be grateful if anybody willing to share what the day role looks like and what I need to look out for in an interview. Thanks. Cheers.

What is a average yearly raise? My company claims they only do a 1-5% raise per year. I won’t even be able to catch up with this year’s inflation. Is it crazy to ask for a 20% increase?

What makes you really happy?

ZS 🐠 - can you receive sponsorship for MBA prior to having tenure of 3 years? If not, what is the downside of applying after 1 or 2 years? I am coming in with 3+ YOE in consulting, so my application would be competitive for next fall (or ‘23)

Why are relationships so difficult!!!

I just received email to submit documents for Wells Fargo. Before this , haven't had conversation with the HR.
1. Can I mail back asking for the budget they have for this role?
2. Can I keep the current CTC thet he asked as blank and just state my expected CTC in email?
3. He had asked for tenure in the current organisation. Does this affect the hike? My tenure in current organisation is 9 months.

Any suggestions on this will be helpful. Thanks.

Is there any tax deductions for variable pay when its credited to every 3 months?

I have about 50k saved up and was wondering if I should invest in real estate. I’ve noticed that the housing market is dipping in my area - advice?

Hi there - my company is returning to office next month. Hybrid to begin before they ramp up to 5 days back in office by end of year.

I think the fact they want to bring us back 5 days is disrespectful considering how much work we’ve put in remotely over the last year. Not to mention productivity studies say people who WFH (and have no kids) are substantially more productive.

All that being said, does anyone work at a FinTech/Tech company whose RTTO policy is more flexible? Looking to leave

Has anyone used fundrise? What are your thoughts? Is it worth checking out?

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
⏸ 🌬 ▶️

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

Raise your hand if you are surviving the holiday season! 🙋‍♀️

Another fly day, but today is 1 year sober for me. I used to love airports because I could run to a bar as soon as I pass security on a Monday morning. Yet I didn't think I had a problem.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

Looking for motivation to get me to my first Alcohol rehab appointment.

Quit the booze back in September. It mostly hasn't been that hard but I can't get a grip on my emotions this week. Feeling overwhelming sadness for no real reason. (Cont)

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

I’m sober curious. I’m also about to help a new non-alcoholic spirit company with their launch.
I have a question for people in recovery. If a brand were to contend that sobriety is a spectrum, or allow for that to a least be part of the conversation, how does that make you feel? Are other brands doing a good job of being inclusive of people who are truly sober?
(I get that NA drinks / spirits can be triggering for people in recovery)
Thank you.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Trying to get rid of this casino addiction.. every time I drink,m or I’m bored... thoughts of blackjack stream in