Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

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Yup, been there, done that. A few lowlights in the blooper reel of my life:

Got so drunk, I confessed a crush I had on a subordinate, proceeded to sloppily hit on that person and not so subtly asked if we should get after it on our travel project. We're both married. I passed out in the hotel lobby (his hotel, not mine).

After pounding drinks for three days straight at an all-inclusive resort for a company retreat, I showed up for dinner wasted, was totally loud/obnoxious and rude to each of the attending partners, then proceeded to go out with the young crew to the clubs. Knocked over a bar cart, broke a bottle, and did not recover well when I drunkenly demanded we get another bottle. Oof.

It was years of people genuinely asking if I am okay, showing gentle, bit consistent concern that I put two and two together. My drinking transitioned from me being the "fun one" at team get togethers to my team doing everything to limit how much can be consumed at team outings. My drinking was scaring them, making them worry, and it was not a good look. It took a layoff and a literal slap in the face from my mentor before I realized it.

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Um yes.... And if you wanna dm about it feel free. I know how that shame and embarrassment spiral feels....

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Yeah. I got really drunk and became pretty obnoxious in front of my work group. Trying to be the center of attention. Mouthed off about partners I don’t like. Made an ass out of myself. Guys there brought up conversations and things I said the next day and I had no recollection

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No. No one. Ever.

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I realize maybe I didn't start the post off well, but please do be sensitive and feel free to read on

I can tell this post is not going in a sensitive direction. Yes I have it was the last reason for me to become sober. We had an outing that I don't fully remember and had conversations i did not recall followed by a lot of guilt.

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There’s always somebody sloppy at Xmas parties, and it sounds like you didn’t do anything irreparable. It’ll all be forgotten in a couple weeks...unless it happens again. I blacked out twice in relatively close succession after some work events, and it got pretty embarrassing. They had to have hotel security knock on my door the next day and I still didn’t wake up.

It took a whole bunch more demoralizing, expensive, and painful events for me to ultimately start to realize I had a real problem with drinking. I started going to AA about two years ago and it’s been the only thing that’s not only kept me sober, but allows me to be happy being me. The AA book actually has some tests to see if you’re having trouble controlling drinking.

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The question is, did you?

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