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It’s not rude, but definitely eager beaver energy
So a different perspective…I’m in live meetings all day and I’m the host. I’m always 10 minutes early in case someone wants to ask something before the official meeting starts, if someone wants to chat casually or tell me about their cat, whatever. When the meeting starts it’s all business so no, it’s not rude or offensive to start a meeting early.
One option is, you know…don’t join until the start time?
By meaning you start the team's meeting. Does that mean the actual instructor starts Five minutes early or people just start joining five minutes early? And if they're just joining five minutes early.No, it doesn't bother me one little bit if they start the meeting early and start talking about the stuff that we're supposed to be talking about in the meeting.Then yes it bothers me
"It gives me anxiety."
This sounds like an internal problem not an external problem.
"Stop doing it."
This has now become an external problem because of the internal problem.
Maybe seek to understand yourself and why this bothers you so much. If you can not hang out with your fellow co-workers via teams for 5-10 minutes prior to a meeting theres a problem. If you can't manage your time effectively enough to join the meeting just before it starts to manage your own anxiety, its a problem.
But telling other people what to do in order for them to appeal to your sensitivities is just unprofessional behavior.
Not sure about the last sentence, as a blanket statement… It can be extremely helpful for everyone involved (directly and indirectly) if others recognize and respect mental health challenges of others, like anxiety. One has to pick the battles, be professional, and very careful with whom it’s discussed, if anxiety, for example, is a mental health challenge. Not everyone is trustworthy and it does not need to be disclosed at all… there are ways to indirectly disclose, ask for accommodations, and learn to coping techniques.
5 minutes early is 10 minutes late.
Why? No meeting should ever start before the scheduled time. You are not late even if you join at the exact time.
I find it rude unless there is a valid reason. (Setting up a room etc)
If everyone arrives there early, then start. Why sitting around and wait for the scheduled time of the meeting. Now, if not everyone is there prior to the scheduled time and the meeting kicks off, that is fine also if it is just to break the ice or take care of the administrative stuff out of the way. You should be grateful since 99% of meetings are never on time.
That’s the problem though. You’re blind to whether or not anyone else has joined, or just that one person. It’s Schrödinger’s meeting.
They could be testing their headset, mic, etc.
Did you start your career being remote OP? Just curious?
No, I did 5 years in person at Big 4. I’ve been remote for the last 4.
I get this, OP. I had a VERY outgoing and social colleague at my last longterm role who would not only login before the meeting administrator, but if anyone else joined early would ping me “are you still comin to the meetin?!” in those final 3-5 mins while I’m trying to reach the stopping point for my work, pee, and refill my water/coffee before logging in.
It was some sort of a game or race to her, and she would find it so hilarious when we realized we had wasted time on the same tasks due to her pattern of trying to jump in and touch everything and only note or look to sign it out AFTER she completed it, often only noticing THEN that I’d signed out and completed it per process.
Yes, it was passive-aggressive, she found me threatening, and it was absolutely a race to her that I wasn’t even competing in.
Do you, folks - show up early, complain about your health to the captive audience or the weather if you must, but literally pinging colleagues to point out you’ve made it there first by a couple mins when common sense should inform them you’re busy, and promptly attending meetings as scheduled - yeah - your anxiety about unspoken messaging in a professional environment is an entirely reasonable response.
Often our bodies perceive these things before your mind consciously does. :/