Does anyone feel like they have had to work MUCH harder than their coworkers to get to where they are? Meaning having much more challenges, hardships, and obstacles while they have had pretty smooth sailings and lots of luck? If so, how do you deal with not always comparing yourself with them?

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Absolutely. I can’t help but make the comparisons because they are so glaring. The finish line feels as if it changes every year for me but not for those that seem to sail through. One thing that helps is knowing that the grass isn’t always greener naturally. Opportunity and sponsorship, both equally important is typically the only difference so work on obtaining that vs caring as much about them.

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Yes. I don’t always compare myself with my white colleagues but I just peep the jig. Managing my anger is a day to day thing.

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Yeah, I totally agree. Doing as well as your white colleagues won’t get you noticed. You’d have to do two levels better than them to get recognized and even then, appreciation isn’t shown. It’s tough but just got to remember this is their world not ours. And also remember, don’t be fooled. They need us to succeed, we don’t need them. Know your worth!

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