Even thinking about leaving my firm makes me feel disloyal, like I’m betraying people who trained me or invested time in me. Rationally, I know firms move on quickly when it suits them, but emotionally, departure feels taboo. There’s an unspoken rule that staying equals loyalty and leaving equals failure. I don’t know when that mindset took hold, but it’s powerful. Why does this profession treat leaving like a personal betrayal instead of a normal career move?

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Stockholm syndrome is real, amigo. Good luck

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You sell hours in exchange for money. That’s the entire relationship.

If things slowed down they wouldn’t hesitate to let you go.

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I felt this way when leaving a firm I was at for 10 years. My notice period came and went, then I actually went to go work for my new firm, and in a few weeks, that was my new normal. So whatever leaving feels like to you, it’s only going to feel that way for a few weeks and then you’ll move on. Certainly you can withstand a few weeks of discomfort to put yourself in a better situation, can’t you?

I own 94% of my firm which I founded after quitting the firm I trained at and expected to see me out until retirement, If anything the momentum of personal relationships means we are very slow at moving on poor performers and have a "better the devil you know" retention attitude. The penalty for poor performance in our firm is that another firm, usually a larger one, will approach the poor performer, offer them easier work, easier (meaning better paying) clients to work for, a significant pay rise and a better implied promise, I agree that leaving your present firm amounts to failure. If I didn't regard it as admitting failure I would have left the present firm that I founded many times over for better clients, higher volumes of work and easier money available elsewhere. To me success would be staying at your present firm, attracting high margin, high volume clients, filtering the enjoyable work out and making some decent money. If failure follows you to the new firm, what then?

As long as this feeling is based on the fact that your firm really has invested in you, I would say it is good that you have some hesitation. That may or may not mean you shouldn't make a change, but you definitely should consider whether the grass is really greener before you move so it is a thoughtful choice. Also, I know as a smaller firm owner I would actually truly respect someone who came to me and said they were thinking about leaving and wanted us to plan the transition together (you know, as we are ethically supposed to do for the clients). That's not normal, probably, though.

I wanted to share that my job is hiring. It's a work-from-home job It is a call center environment, but it's not as crazy busy & the customers are generally pretty nice! (I know not the best, but it's something & they take their time to teach you!) They send you all of the equipment & make sure that you are set up & ready to go before training. Training is done on camera, but after that, we don't have to turn on our cameras even for meetings. I can honestly say I love my job!🤍

Remember that the company hired you bc you already have the capacity and sometimes also the experience to grasp and perform well in the position. Additionally, you traded your time and hard work for earnings and this is the commitment agreed upon. Loyalty should be to self, and your upgrade has been earned after a reasonable period of time.

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