Fiancé’s sister is pregnant with her fourth child and due 1.5 months after our somewhat-remote mountain destination wedding. She’s planning to attend. Idk what to do or think, but my anxiety is through the roof. My biggest concern is her safety and/or having a complication, which would ruin the wedding for my fiancé and his family. Any words of wisdom on this scenario?

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You mean she might ruin the wedding for your fiance and his family but not for you? Come on! Your concern is not about her pregnancy or your finances wedding, you're concerned that she'd ruin your wedding for you.

Either way, you simply have to chat with her about it and ensure her doctor gives clearance and that she&her husband prepared for any unexpected happenings. You can't stop her from attending her brother's wedding because she's pregnant. That's discrimination. Have a heart to heart chat with no insinuation that she shouldn't attend but rather that you'd like to make sure she is safe and taken care of. You can talk to your fiance and let him communicate that to her brother inlaw and his sister if you're uncomfortable.

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Thank you. I don’t plan on dissuading her from the wedding. After sleeping on it, it was their choice to get pregnant, and hopefully all goes well; if something does happen, we won’t be there for it until after our honeymoon because that is the boundary we are making for our once in a lifetime time event vs their chosen fourth in a lifetime event.

How far off is the wedding? Chances are reality will set in, right now she wants to be there. My fiancé's sister was due 3 weeks prior ( her 5th!) and she was gun ho on coming. Then handling a new born ( she had had one premie who was in the hospital for 2 months) and the other 4, and, and, and...... as the time neared she decided it just wasn't reasonable.

I think part of it was she felt a tad guilty about not waiting a few months to go for number 5 or at least mention when we were batting around wedding dates.

Did I stress, yes because at first his mom was also all in. She could help with the kids. Not sure if was her doctor, her husband, mom or just reality when it got close to buying plane tickets, but it settled itself. I am sure yours will to. Just focus on you your fiancé and your wedding. She's a big girl, not your job. But guessing her OBG will say no.

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She will be at 33 weeks at the wedding. Agree it’s not my job

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I feel like you’d have to get an okay for a doctor to do any hiking during that time?

She’s definitely not hiking lol but yeah, it’s a 3 day wedding, in a remote location, and 2 flights away from where they live.

90% of babies arrive after week 36, so you’re talking about something that’s unlikely to happen — even more so since this is her fourth child so she knows how her body labors at this point.

Don’t waste your time worrying about something that is unlikely to happen. People are more likely to miss the wedding due to delayed and cancelled flights.

Unfortunately, she had 2 complications in the past 3 pregnancies, so the labor part is my least concern. I’m a bit more at peace with it since last night bc we are going to make her comfortable but ignore everything else that may come our way during the event and honeymoon. It was their choice to have a 4th child, and this is our once in a lifetime event with our friends and family who are also sacrificing their time and resources to attend.

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