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Use it as a painful learning experience. These people are not your friends, they're your coworkers. Temper your expectations accordingly and go out there and knock the next opportunity out of the park. You'll bounce back and be better for knowing where things stand.
Best thing you can do is shake it off. A heartfelt apology will throw them off and bring a tinge of guilt that may keep them from continuing the conversation. Owning your mistake takes great courage. But the worse thing you can do is shift the blame or provide an excuse as you try to defend your position ..... makes it way worse. The goal here is to get your name out their mouth.
^^^^^ goal is to have “success and your name” in the same sentence. Disassociate yourself from failure etc. quickest way to do that is bring in a win and high light the value you bring.
😅 I’m not by nature a forgiving person if you catch my drift…. Your team mates aren’t friends… treat your job like an account. You have advocates, hardliners etc and your job internally is to build your own “business case” for your success.
Same thing happened to me so all those that have turned their backs on me I stopped helping them and let things fall apart on purpose and let the manager step up.
Thank you everyone for the thoughtful responses, feeling much better and having an easier time organizing my thoughts
I've been in that situation before and it hurts. In times like this, you find out who your true friends are. There are a few people through the years that I distanced myself from when I realized they didn't have my back. I can count on one hand those that I can trust at work. I keep my circle small for a reason. As far as this incident, just know you learned a lot about your teammates, hold your head high and keep moving forward.
I was in this situation before. I took the fall for something that didn't even have anything to do with me. The people responsible just sat there and allowed it. I had a conversation with the co-worker afterward and discussed my unappreciation for how he handled it.
What actually happened though?
I'm the most junior member of my team, and ended up taking the blame for a project cost overrun. My manager said it was no big deal, happens all the time, etc, but I got slapped with a performance plan out of the blue and no one had my back.