Very curious to get folks' perspectives on having kids at 30 vs. 35 vs. 40? Context: I'm 27 and am leaning towards 35ish age range for first kid.

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Go for it. There will never be “the perfect time”. As Americans we try to plan out every detail of our lives. This is one of those things that if you go into with a prayer-filled focus...you will be blessed for the rest of your life.
I was 24 when I had my first and now she is about to graduate from high school. Yeah, I’ll admit that there’s been stress and pressure on me to perform (professionally), but it lit the fire under me early in my career.

Use it to your advantage, but seriously...don’t wait too long. My father died when he was just 37 years old (and I was 4).

Life is too short...so start living it (with children).

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The world is changing... had my first child at 26...last at 42... didn't plan or agonize over when to have them....was thrilled at the news I was pregnant... thrilled when they arrived... stressed when their college bills arrived... beyond thrilled waiting for two grandkids to arrive later this month...

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Children are an absolute blessing and the biggest challenge at the same time. Have them earlier, you have more time and money for retirement and spoiling grandkids, have them later, you have more time and money on the front end. My personal advise, forget planning, enjoy each day and know that every breath is a blessing. Now go make some babies now or later.

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Had mine at 28 and 30, now I am 54 and they are off and on their own and I’m still young and healthy enough to enjoy work, travel, etc.

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^ I agree. There is no right time. If you wait for the perfect time, you’ll die without having children.

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I had my first child the day before I turned 41.

On one hand I don't have the same energy I had ten years ago. But on the other, I have more money, free time and patience.

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I had my first at 37. It completely changes your life. Your needs become secondary. Lack of sleep, no time to see friends, no time to work extra, traveling with a child is not fun at all, no time for hobbies, etc... It drains you!

I’m not trying to discourage you from having kids because they bring a new type of love into your life. But proceed informed. It will change your life permanently.

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35yrs old - now with 2 under 2yrs old. I traveled, enjoyed married life w my wife for 6yrs pre-kids and started a business 5 years ago. Wouldn’t have it any other way/timeline. Kids will only change your life for the better - if you allow them to ‘slow you down’, they can. Incorporate them into whatever your lifestyle is (travel, etc).

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^ I agree with FA3

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Make sure you get everything done you want to first. Travel wise, career wise, etc.. Kids are awesome but they change things. 35 is a good number

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Had my first at 33 and my second is on his way this summer (right before I turn 37). Seems like good timing, and I’m enjoying life. My career is at a good point, and I still have a lot of energy to keep up.

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I had mine at 28, 30, 32 (about to be 9,7,5) and by the time I’m in my early 50’s they’ll be out of the house. Gives me time to enjoy the fruits of my labor while I still can.... I would say the earlier the better but not too early. I think 28 was the perfect time to start

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Earlier is healthier for the baby

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FA8, do you have research on that?

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Had my first at 35 and second at 45. I would not recommend 45. I find it harder to keep up

We started at 30 and had three kids by the time we were 36 and now they are out of the house so starting earlier was definitely nice but on the other hand, I would've been way better dad in my 40s.

Personally I don't have research I can cite off the top of my head but it is fairly well known that after a certain age there is an increased likelihood for genetic abnormalities

Had one at 27 and one at 29. I'm only 30 now but my expectations are that I'll still be "young" by the time they're in college. Hopefully making more and still able to travel. I wouldn't have it any other way, but man does it change your life! Especially when my peers are waiting till mid-30s to have kids

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