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I hear you friend. I believe in the majority of instances (but not all) growth and stability are inversely proportional. Since having children I have chosen stability and the growth subsequently stalled. Great jobs that require a move could not be considered. And even those with crazy long commutes. When the kids came I felt life was no longer just about *me* and my choices dictate that. I sometimes find myself fantasizing where my career would be if I chose growth over stability, but those daydreams just tug at my ego and then I realize that would be a far emptier life. I’m going to stay the course and make the most out of the path I’m on. I think this is called the midlife crisis. If this is yours I hope you get through it well. Good luck.
You’re putting your family first before you, as you should. Have no regrets and enjoy the life you have with your family as therein lies the real wealth.
Thank you for your responses. They are quite powerful and what I needed to hear this morning.
I am also in that “way over 40” part of my career. I look at my life as much larger than my job. In my 20s I defined my world by my work and now I define it by pretty much everything else. Nothing wrong with stability. Do some freelance work to challenge yourself and you’ll be good. The struggle you mention is real until you get a few other things cooking but I don’t think it requires a move and all of the calamity that might bring.
Creative design Lead says it all your family takes first place. However, One nuance on this view from someone in their late 50s who made the decision to move in mid 40s and continents not just market. It helps if you can keep fresh and growing for your family too college, weddings, family holidays and even their view of the world. Key is your wife’s career as I found children are pretty adaptable (before last years of high school) but any change of market is professional challenge for you and her there are risks what is Creative in one place can be callow in another. But if you feel jaded then Long term that is a look out. You truly can reinvent in the same market become a behaviour fiend or a neuroscientist so you don’t have to move geography just mind.
I hope this helps without being too on the fence. My key learning is if you stand still it is not the best for you or the family if you want to keep going in this industry into late career. But perhaps you get the chance to do something different such as build a start up or found a charity which I know colleagues of mine have done too. Best with your decision again though your family is the gold.
Out of curiosity: when you were presented with those opportunities, were the offers so good that the financial aspect of them totally made sense? In my my case, the offer did not imply a much better salary but the opportunity to do better work and be in an environment that I consider fits me better. To me, that is enough, but financially I would have to put my family in a disadvantageous position - at least for a while
If you are bored/unhappy with “stability”, was the choice worth it? Instability is not equal to moving, that is just change.
When I am happy and fulfilled, the family is better. And yes, I’ve taken a step back in pay once or twice when it was the right thing to do. And as the only breadwinner in the family it was hard and even embarrassing, but that last part was only in my head...the family was always better for it. It taught our kids things as well as they were with us adding their opinion, listening to us talk things through.
Counterpoint to “stability” - is the job you have now actually stable? Or does it just appear so because it is familiar and has been stable in the past? We tend to look at the past and judge it on the merit of the outcome rather than the risk profile at the time. Wondering if that is the lens through which you are labeling your current job.
Fair point. I read into the OP’s use of “stability” as more about the family’s stability than the job’s. But you are right... job stability (anywhere) is an illusion.
To expand a bit more: I am way over 40, and not growing in my current job. However I feel too old to pursue a new adventure at expense of family’s stability ( wife job, schools). To top it off, the market where I work is really small to find jobs in my area I feel like the ship has sailed already.