Guys in NA and EU- what are the locker room rules/etiquettes around staring/looking at straight men when they are naked? I recently moved to the US from India and I find myself staring at hot men when they are changing or showering. I get caught at times and it’s so embarrassing but also so difficult to stop staring. There are no locker rooms in India so curious

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This is a mismatch of cultural standards. Staring is more acceptable and more common in India than it is in NA/EU. OP is not rude, cruising or poorly raised, he just has a different cultural baseline. Breaking that habit while in NA/EU will take time, but will happen eventually.

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I’m non-Indian but spent a couple months living in India and as a foreigner got stared at a lot (sometimes I would have staring contests and it would last a few minutes). @OP it’s not just the locker room, but even day to day I think Americans feel more uncomfortable being starred at by strangers

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Yeah it’s deff a no. Although with the right guy could lead to some steam room fun

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Also the fact that you’re embarrassed when you get caught should tell you it’s inappropriate...

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Here in Germany, naked bodies are no big deal, especially in public parks, beaches, saunas and locker rooms. Still, we don’t stare.

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This is sexual harassment 🙁

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I think some of us def try to take a peek for a few secs but staring is a hard no. That’s just creepy and disrespectful.

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Every 5 year old in NA/EU is taught not to stare. You know better.

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LOL wear sunglasses in the locker room, and eat them with your eyes!

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Might as well add the pussycat wig at this point.

Don't stare. Enjoy the view using your peripheral vision.

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OP - Stare karna sakth mana hai. Sabh firang tujhe benefit of doubt dey rahey hain, par stare karna India mein bhi rude hai. 👎🏽

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OP all of these people kind of sound judgey. Honestly, it's okay to look and stare for a bit! Just don't look for too long, especially since it's probably not going anywhere in the next minute or two. Give it glances and look away for a while, then look again. Even straight guys look, they just don't stare. I definitely am in the locker room like 👀👀👀, even before I knew that I was into guys.

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There are gyms with a more gay vibe where looking definitely happens and sometimes gets into reciprocal flirting. Never staring, you need to find some way to let off steam, OP

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Lol please don’t stare. That is creeeeeepy

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It’s not acceptable if the other party doesn’t know it’s coming. Don’t stare at the hotties in the change room.

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Ok I’m pretty pretty sure you just don’t stare at people period anywhere in the world, let alone when they’re full on naked, minding their own business taking a shower. But maybe I’m wrong and it’s okay in India?!

No, it’s not.

As a general rule in N/A, staring at someone usually indicates mental health issues. So probably not the vibe you want to get sending.

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