Had a miscarriage on Friday (third IVF loss in a row) and also learned I need to cut my upcoming 7-day vacation down to 2 days to accommodate depositions. I’m too busy with work to be able to process the loss, and I’m so miserable. Just needed to get it off my chest as it’s not really something I’m comfortable talking about at work.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you’re able to take care of yourself physically and mentally very soon, and I’m sorry this profession doesn’t allow for that. Sending you lots of love and positivity.

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I’m so very sorry for your loss. Can someone else on your team cover the depositions so you can take your full vacation? I understand not wanting to discuss something so deeply personal at work, but can you say you’ll be out x days for medical reasons and leave it at that?

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I fought to get the role I have on this matter and to do the depositions, so I would feel awful for bailing on my team — and myself I guess? It just feels like after everything I did to get to this point and making them believe they could rely on me for it, going on the vacation makes all that effort and trust I built pointless. I just need to power through the next week

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Completely understandable to be miserable and I understand not being comfortable to talk about it at work. I hope you get some time and space to grieve and rest in the days ahead. 💛

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I’m so sorry for your loss, that’s heartbreaking! I hope you can take time to process and grieve soon.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you healing vibes and a hope that you'll have the space to process this loss soon.

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I’m so sorry. I’ve been in your exact situation, unfortunately. I did not really take time off work right away, but I wish I had. About six months later, I asked for a sabbatical for two months and it was so good for my mental health. I hope you can do something like that sooner rather than later. It was unpaid but worth it.

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I am so sorry. No words. Been there twice and 15 years later, it still hits a nerve. FWIW, had a child after the twice. 🙂 Hang in there, and hugs.

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