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Bhai, word of advice, thuk kar chatna nahi chahiye.
Be a Man!!
Not personally but I’m a divorce lawyer and a lot of reconciliations I see start with a genuine offer to attend marriage counseling if you haven’t tried that already.
Buy out more time, divorce can be done any point of time in life, but make sure you don’t regret later on , and as you mentioned you still love you spouse , so why don’t you buy out more time , and try once again. Time heals everything and tells the truth too. For now, please stop this divorce proceedings, and take more time, work on your differences, put your ego aside , this advice goes for both the parties ! Marriage is only about you and your spouse, kids grow up and leave, relatives and parents too!! Circumstances too change! Only you two will remain with each other at the end of your life! So don’t just give up! You still have love , she too will have, just try and try but don’t leave . Try living together and work on your marriage , if not, then try living separately but work on your marriage , work and work before you give up with regrets in your heart of lifetime!!
Sit with her, try to make her understand. Show her love , support, care . Try to understand her point of view , ask her what makes you come to this firm decision ? What are your complains ? Just listen carefully to her , try to remove her complains -not by words but my ACTION, the day she will see your sincere efforts to overcome her complains , she will reconsider her decisions naturally , without u saying anything
That’s hard to answer because without knowing your spouses opinion, it’s hard to know if you should be holding onto Hope. I hope that makes some sense because if they have moved on and put reconciliation out of their mind, then I wouldn’t expect anything to change over the next two months, but if they seem more receptive to reconciliation, you know, hope isn’t bad. Are you guys in couples counseling or how do you guys interact like is he friendly and affectionate to you when you interact or does he just avoid you?
I’m not sure if this means anything but my wife just reached out this morning with “FYI the court date you told me was wrong. It is on XYZ @9am. and you can confirm with your lawyer. Also has there been mail for me at your house?”
Should I use this situation to talk to her in person while giving her mail?
I wasn't able to reconcile because my ex refused to go to counseling and actually work on things. I really do think had we gone to counseling and both put in the work we could have reconciled but it would have taken some serious changes.
Also married and divorced, ex-husband refused to go to counseling. After 5 years I realized I couldn’t do this alone. Additionally, I realized after we separated that he was an alcoholic. I went to therapy for myself.
Hey OP, any update? I'm kinda in the same boat :(