Hi all, just wondering if anyone else feels like an oddball!
I am 46 years old, diagnosed 2 years ago, medicated which does help me focus and be more productive, although it does not suppress my hyper side!. i have a very heavy workload, fast paced professional job, I get a lot done and considered good at it, but I do know many of my colleagues think I’m a bit odd! My boss knows of my diagnosis and is understanding, but I can never shake the feeling my colleagues think I’m just odd!

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To add- I either need to pop over for frequent quick vape breaks which pisses my colleagues off but I have to go and move or I would scream, be assured I take no lunch or coffee break and work at home, I can either be really quiet and professional but then everyone keeps asking me if I am ok? Or I’m laughing and joking and I can feel the looks of disapproval, comments where I feel I’m being thought of as an air head. Just cannot win with myself. how do we deal with this constant feeling of weirdness but you are actually suppressing your adhd and trying to function.

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Right there with you. Sigh.

You won’t be able to win over everyone. If you are doing well at your job and your boss is understanding, those are the important things career-wise. Coming from a fellow oddball out here.

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Maybe we need to talk more openly about ADHD/Neuro divergence and normalize it ..

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I chose to disclose to most colleagues I work with and explain the best rules of engagement for me, asking for accommodations when I need them. Even something as small as explaining the need to fidget with something while on calls or bounce my knee can go a long way toward understanding.

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And this is systemic, I qgree

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