Anyone a manager? I’m recently diagnosed (26F) and I can’t help but beat myself up everytime I fall short of my to do list. Makes me feel like a huge disservice to my team. I’ve been trying vitamin D and working out, but it makes my “highs” and “low” SO extreme. The simplest things are so complex in my mind.

If anyone feels similar, how do you manage these feelings? I’m personally considering switching to an individual contributor role, but can’t help but feel like a disappointment if I do.

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Stay a Manager and work through it. Delegate adequately and show up for your team when required. Never let them see you falter because they look to you for answer. So lead like you are supposed to.. I struggle unmedicated but I usually have to pretend and make it through.. and balance it out with gym and a good rest. I’m medicated now thankfully.

For me what exhaust me is the lack of sleep with the ADHD 🧠 so I literally have to parent myself.

Most important is always look at the positives and solutions, instead of beating yourself up. Take it easy day at a time, if not one hour at a time, even with your team.

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Thank you so much for taking the time to answer and your kind words. I'm also unmedicated but by working remote it's a bit easier for me to hide everything. I started working out again, have healthier breakfasts and taking my vitamins. It's so bad right now, I'm actually taking it minute by minute.

Sleep is definitely hard right now, but I'm trying. I agree, after receiving this diagnosis I've felt like I needed to reraise myself which is why I'm struggling as leadership. But I'll continue pushing. We have a mini support group at my office and there's a director in there I connected with recently

Delegate responsibilities where possible!
But more importantly, most people fall short of their to-do list - being a manager means things will come up and you will find tasks take longer than expected. The only managers that reach the end of their list are those that set a short one.

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What do you mean by highs and lows? Like hyper focus and distraction? Or is your mood variable?
If simple things feel complex, make the work even simpler. Keep your list to three things per day. And if you have trouble getting started, start with something super tiny. Like opening a document.

I agree with the comments above. Delegate what you can and it really helps. I would also recommend looking into medication if you aren't already on one Being on meds really helped me to manage my day to day.

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