Hi! I'll be attending a bachelorette in a month. I don't know any of the attendees except the bride to be. The MOH hasn't organized anything yet, no budget is set, no bookings, no questions on the group chat (except suggesting two accomodations that stated "no partying"...). What is the etiquette here? I'd like to get involved because I want my friend to enjoy the day, I have plenty of ideas and it's in 30 days(!!), but I don't want to seem directive since I don't know anyone! Feedback welcome.

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Introduce yourself, show your excitement and ask questions in the group chat. "Hey this is xxx, I know bride to be when we were yyy. Very excited to meet you all. Are there any plans for activities yet? What are some activities you enjoy and I can help plan"

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Is the bachelorette local? Regardless, it’s strange that nothing is planned or booked yet. It’s totally fine to reach out to the MOH directly. Say something like “hey! Can’t wait for x’s bachelorette party. Do you know when we’ll have the details nailed down? I’m planning my PTO for next month & wanted to check in!” Once you get that conversation started, you can suggest things that you’ve done on other bachelorettes, different accommodations, etc.

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I went on a bachelorette like this for my childhood friend. I offered to pay for the swimsuits. Maybe do something like that or gift bags to get the convo going.

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These are great ideas. I'd probably offer some gift bags next time. Thanks for this!

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I'm hoping the MOH has planned some things and just not shared them! Because 30 days is so soon!

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Yeaaaaa that would be way too last minute.

Hi! Well spotted, the event was last weekend 😄 so I indeed ended up getting in touch with the 2 girls in charge. I offered to organize a video call where I realized that nothing was booked😭 in the end I researched and pushed lots of suggestions, made responsibilities and schedule clear, DIYed jewelery (too late to order anything custom lol) and did most of the decision-making in a last-minute fashion (not fun)
The event went smoothly, a bit underwhelming in terms of activity (budget wasn't high and it was in expensive Paris..)
Now I'm waiting for everyone to pay me back the different bookings 🤣
What I take away: never wait for the last minute !! Better plan ahead and ask for help

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Awesome ! Hope you get your money back quickly!

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These are great advice, thanks for the prompts!

I would give my input. If anyone is down for my ideas then they’ll give feedback, if not then I won’t hear anything. At least you know you tried, you won’t be able to force them if they don’t agree or give you any feedback.

So how did it go, OP? I feel like 30 days is too short. I hope everything went well.

You should have suggested your own ideas. I'd appreciate it if I were the MOH.

Oh wow. I wouldn't be able to pull it off. Well, maybe I can but it will not be as perfect as I wanted it to be.

Geez! It must be so stressful. I hope your friend still had an amazing night!

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