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About 1x a month. 4 kids 10 years married. She stays at home. They wear her out. We don’t go to bed at the same time most nights, and being on the road a lot didn’t help. But she’s always been weird about sex, I am considering seeking counseling for us. I don’t get why marriages head this way.
Married 11 years, 3 kids 6 and under - she doesn’t really want to very often anymore and we were getting in a bad place. At one point we were like 1/month and I was going crazy. I get it, kids and all, but I got really angry when she kept turning me down. Sounds trite but we ‘schedule’ it every Saturday. I don’t have to ask every day and risk getting turned down, she doesn’t have to be bothered with me asking, and it works out pretty well. Works for us.
Average 1.2 times per week. Meaning it's mostly weekly but every now and then will double up in a week.
3 kids under 11. Married 14 years...we're 35 and 36 which I imagine plays a part for some people.
13 years married, 3 kids under 5, 2-3 times per week. We both initiate, but would prob be more if I had the energy to initiate more.
I think it boils down to the soul connection for us. How considerate am I of her on a daily basis? How much effort do I put into our relationship? Do I pursue her at all? Does she feel desired, heard?
Allowing her to get her sleep in the mornings has been so good for her overall state of well being.
It translates to once or twice a week, but it depends.
When you want it... just let her know. Pamper the lady (or guy), find out if the mood is right, and go for it.
Pro tip: Do chores without being asked to ( I know she always has to ask me). Like just wake up and mop the house or do the dishes or something... free up some of her time and she will repay in kind.
Yeah, it's tough... and unfortunately I dont have the answers. Sometimes just doesn't work, and sometimes there is really nothing you can do about it.
Aside from the go to advice of "couples therapy", try doing things that make you happy, meditate, go for walks, maybe this can bring some clarity.
Hang in there.
Once a month. She will cuddle up but gets put off if I pursue any further. Used to be a lot more frequent. Married for 21 years now. COVID has dampened the enthusiasm even further as the kids (teenagers) are always around home and we miss the mornings after the kids left for school
Thank you EY2, I'll be reading that.
We averaged 1x month. Then I started challenging it and having some heart to hearts. Were probably at 1x every 2 weeks now... not what I want but better.
For us she has 0 interest. I found the book "Come as you are" helpful to better get in her head, but it's not a solution.
Thus far I see a problem and she doesnt, so I'm in no-man's land until she eventually hears me and gets it.
A few plays/conversations left to be made but not there yet.
Maybe. My wife has never really wanted much sex. She has some low testosterone levels which may be the cause, but it predates marriage.. has certainly gotten worse, but that's normal for women too. I think shes just LL all the time and has always been.
1-2 times a week. 6 and 8 year old
Why just wife and not include all partners?
Jelly af
Two kids under 5. She works nights at the hospital with covid patients. Haven't been intimate more than once a month. She's scared, and I can't blame her. Once a week was our norm before she worked with death every day. Not just fear of the disease, but having shift after shift like she does doesn't exactly leave much room for being in the mood.
Sorry to hear.