How do you deal with passive aggressive people? Nice to your face but with hidden agendas?

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It’s honestly so hard deal with those people. I’ve been thrown off by that cause it like there’s a switch. One moment they’ll be super nice and one moment very passive aggressive. Being just straightforward or asking them to be more blunt could be a way to deal with that.

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I had a manager like that. I’d always call them out. For example, if they’re having an issue with anything, I’d always flat out ask what their issue is about and if I should do something a certain way from then on. It usually grounds them back to earth.

I capitalize them. I do what’s needed to deal with them in the moment and after it’s done, I make it all about me. Why Are they in my life and why are they having a strong reaction out of me? I use my reactions to them as feedback about my own self and grow myself. Do I need to be more direct and honest with people? what is getting in my way? What do I think I will lose by being authentic and if I lose something by being myself, do I need it in my life? In a nutshell, I don’t waste more time than needed thinking about others. I have no idea where they are coming from and why they are the way they are and it’s not my place to judge them and their coping mechanisms because I have my own share but I have complete control of myself and all the info about my own story. So I will invest my energy into where I can make something constructive happen for myself instead.

The classic kill ‘em with kindness often works, especially if coupled with not caring about drama and gossip they spur. Just don’t give them too much information as that can hurt you politically.

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