I feel like a failure. I’m a new mom and I returned from leave early. I only took three out of six months thinking I can be aggressive with becoming partner. I’ve take on so much and the current project I am on is expecting 80 hour work weeks (even though I told them I cannot do that because of my situation) and the partner doesn’t give me much air cover so I’m either getting yelled at by leadership on the client side and/or it’s being doubled down by the partners. And maybe I’m just doing a

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Family and YOURSELF first. Just keep repeating over and over until you believe it. You’ll never get this time back with your baby. You could get let go tomorrow and this job you have so much loyalty to will never think twice. I know it’s hard especially when you have a career goal in mind. But there is better balance out there, but you have to advocate for yourself. Please give yourself grace and know you’re anything but a failure. You’re a hard working mom, one of the mentally hardest jobs in the world. Take care 💕

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I would suggest saying that you made a mistake not taking the additional 3 months and then take the rest of the break that is honestly not even enough. But take it, you will feel better and maybe decide if being partner at this place is really worth it right now or ever - because it sounds like you’re not going to get what you want and now you’re giving what you can’t really give and I would personally call a time out on this mess. Sending you hugs. It sounds like a struggle, and I hope you can pull the plug on that unnecessary struggle you’re going through.

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This career is so demanding and mentally taxiing. When you’re IN it, it’s really hard to think logically. I completely agree with A1 (and as a mom to a 9 month old). The time goes by so quickly with them, you need time yourself to heal in many ways, and this is just a job. The only things that matter are the things that happen outside of said job. Again, I’ve been here and I know how easy it is to have this career be all consuming. Please roll of this project to take the remainder of your leave. No questions asked. They’ll figure it out.

You’re doing great ❤️ hugs

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Can you take the rest of your leave now or is it too late

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Job- I’m certainly not doing my best. But now I’m at the point where I don’t even want to work for the project and just want to truly hide.

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Sending you love! Take the full leave, if you still can. You will come out of this stronger. Bet on yourself.

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Oh honey. Your baby is so young. And you’re still so swirling with hormones. As much as I love work I don’t think it is physically possible for at least nine months to go back to it. The partner promotion will come in good time. Right now, your body and instinct is telling you to be partner to your tiny little client.

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