I feel so burnt out and isolated and trapped. I moved to Deloitte 2 months ago so I am handcuffed to this job for another 4 months before I can even look outsider the firm or take vacation. I work 16-20 hours a day and the weekends; I only get shot on by my SM. I work in a windowless room since that’s all that’s available in my condo with my SO. It truly feels like there is only one way out now

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Sounds like you need some boundaries. 16-20 hour days? You need to say no

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16-20 hours a day is probably the issue — are you currently in busy season? Will those hours reduce to a normal workday after that is done? If so, just know it’s temporary. If 16-20 hours/day is the norm in the group year round, start looking for other opportunities.

Oh, Deloitte...

(I used to work there and yes, I get it.)

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Thank you

Hi, I’m sorry you’re in a tough place right now. You say you’re unable to look for a new role for another 4 months (meaning 6 months at Deloitte). What’s stopping you from looking and applying now? I think it may help your mindset and send more positivity into your life.

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Thanks

I promise you’ll get through this

I have had 5 year stint, , 6 months, 1 year and now another 6 months

No one and I mean no one (hiring manager, interviews, recruiter) has questioned the timeline

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Sure @OP, go ahead and dm and I’ll check it out

Firstly you don’t need to work 15-20 hours. You just need to stand up for yourself and put your foot down. You will not get dinged at YE because you didn’t put in 20 hours a day. Talk to your coach and explain the situation. Then take a Monday or a Friday off to get away for this vicious cycle and rest up. Next week just be open about how much you can do and what you won’t be able to do over email. If they have a problem they will roll you off themselves which will be problem solved.

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Yes, talk to your coach and escalate to a senior manager or PPMD if it doesn't get fixed. Just put some time on their calendar and tell them what is going on. It sounds like you are working for someone who is inexperienced or inept.

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Why can’t you look outside for another job for another four months OP?

I understand, and I’m sorry. You have to literally close the laptop though. Why do you need to wait for another 4 months

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