How do I stop comparing myself to others? I know I shouldn’t, but practically speaking I can’t help it... every time I open LinkedIn... and I can’t not go to LinkedIn coz I am job hunting.

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It isn't unhealthy if you do it in the right spirit. Done well, you're benchmarking against a peer group and reaping the benefits of surrounding yourself with high achievers.

Done incorrectly you look down on yourself and your current position instead of looking up and what's possible for you.

Use your benchmarks to inspire you and hit your targets.

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I think it’s ok comparing with others, depends on what you are comparing though, as long as it motivates you (not stress you out). It really depends on people. I have been compared to other kids by my mom (typical Asian family) on my test scores all the time, some kids would have given up and become rebellious but I seem to be more motivated and always had a strong will to break through. But I have my problems too, I am too keen on getting everything right and very hard on myself. This may pressurize myself and others.

That makes sense. Any suggestions on reframing or looking at it from a different mindset? Currently when I look at LinkedIn, it makes me feel like a failure. I struggle with low self esteem in general and this doesn’t help. I guess I need to approach it with a new attitude, but not sure how to go about cultivating that attitude.

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