Does anyone have any advice on how to convince yourself life is worth it when you think it’s not. I’m a 28 year guy, just got laid off from my job, have aspergers, have no friends, can’t find a gf, why do I even try anymore at anything

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There are millions of neurodivergent people, I recommend finding another one to date! It’s better to be with someone that can understand. I never had a single date until I met my husband, and I know my looks weren’t the problem.

Also you are so young and men are usually seen as not “peaking” until their 30s (lucky). Your career is just starting. This is a weird transition period of life and a lot of us are lonely and feeling friendless. Also have you tried seeing a psychiatrist and medications? They can literally save your life, I’ve seen it firsthand.

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Your life has purpose. This is a blip- you can literally reinvent yourself as often as you like.

There is so much about life to be enjoyed. Find a new career / company; pick up a new hobby- focus on doing things that bring you joy, people (friends/potential gf’s) will be attracted to that

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Life is worth it, especially when you find out how to live in a way that helps you thrive. My boyfriend is autistic and what he’s told me has helped him is to stop trying to fit in as much and create new standards for his life that maybe didn’t fit society’s, but were comfortable for him. He also started therapy a few weeks ago and it’s helped him a lot. I’m also in therapy and it’s been the key to my healing (I’ve got trauma from childhood, as well as ADHD). Good luck OP

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Life is hard. And unfair and lots of times feels just plain stupid. But you can game this whole thing and make it work for you. The best advice I can give when you feel this kind of despair is to go volunteer somewhere. LIKE ANYWHERE. It surges dopamine. Makes you like yourself. It gives perspective. And it KEEPS YOU BUSY so you can pass thru the darkness. Hang in there. You got this.

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It’ll get better — hang in there and try and do more social things . Volunteer , meet ups etc

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