Really trying not to spiral, and my practice group leader has been openly hostile to and dismissive of me lately. I haven’t mentioned my depression/anxiety to him because we’re not exactly getting along swimmingly, but I don’t know who else to talk to about my MH. Fighting with my wife hasn’t helped either. Really not sure how to handle it aside from counseling but that isn’t getting me anywhere fast. Thoughts?

Wondering if I should look into anxiety meds (or if I’m just a baby and need to get used to this life).

Have you tried any? Did it help? Affect your productivity? Which ones? tya!

Where do you like to buy your gym clothes? What brand workout wear do you like the best? I have really only tried Old Navy.

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

FORM50 fitness? Anyone familiar with them? Looks kind of like power Pilates. They only have a New York (Astoria) studio and a Miami studio. Seems like most of the classes are mostly women, and hot pink themes all around. 🏳️‍⚧️🙋🏻‍♀️ and on hrt for about 18 months, so not presenting full time yet. Whether I present female or male, it’s not an environment I’m likely to pass super well in so wondering about how lgbt welcoming it will be. Also if the workout is as lit as people seem to represent.

Anyone has an alternative to an Au Pair. Wife and I were looking forward to host an au pair but can’t go through the official program since we are not permanent residents yet. Anyone has an alternative besides traditional daycare? Maybe a friend of a friend? I am in NJ. Any ideas welcomed and needed!

Good indoor sports options in Streeterville/ River north area? Squash, tennis etc?

I need help.
I recently joined a small-sized product based company.I have not been able to get along with my manager. He does not give me full information on assigned tasks and expects me to follow his order to the letter like in a military. When I ask him doubts he either scolds me or laughs at me like I am dumb. Because of this i am literally scared to talk to him. I am almost depressed because of this. I don't know if it is my fault and if mine how to improve myself.I am very sad bcoz of this

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

Why do have to wear a mask in public just because other people refused to get vaccinated. ? If it is an contagious as measles then mask are not going to stop the spread.

What’s the max umbrella policy coverage y’all have seen offered by insurance providers? Looking to get one for the first time. Anything I should consider/ask the insurance company?

Going into my first weekend sober. Kind of nervous TBH. I know I can do because I've decided I'm going to do it, but I will definitely be feeling temptation. Wish me luck and share your coping strategies

Dry January. Anyone have it turn into the kick off for a longer term plan? Considering this.

Botox recommendations anyone?

I think that I have eating disorder. I am always hungry but when I get food I can’t finish it, usually I am done after 2-3 bites and then I am hungry again after an hour. Anyone has similar issues? Have you been to a nutritionist or dietitian? If yes, is it covered by Insurance?

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

How common are prenups in UK among middle-class? I'm thinking of asking my SO for one but I worry it would be viewed by anyone else as a one foot-out-the-door kinda situation. I'm just trying to be safe with little I have, seeing my friends' marriages.

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

Important question! Any strategies for getting out of work zoom happy hours? Other than ignoring requests and not showing up, which has been my MO so far. But it’s getting a bit awkward.

On average, does PDM work less hours per week than Traditional?

I have been tagged for this project that doesn’t start until June 10th. My utilization is going to drop significantly but at the same time the deployment team cannot present me elsewhere. Ugh!

Does anyone know the starting salary for mba hires at google? Glassdoor is being vague 😄

Mr. Manager is posting again y'all 🤡

What is avg package for principal soft ware engineer in fidelity any details would help ?

Hi Fishes,

How much to expect from Telstra, for 7.5 yrs of experience, CTC - 18 lpa, tech- pytest python

Please advice

TIA

I need everyone’s help😭 Money aside, how did you finalize which idea to pursue? I’m struggling to narrow it down from 4. Focusing is not an issue for me once I’m locked in, but I’m struggling to get there because I haven’t finalized which idea to focus on. Open to any recommendations please (books, personal stories, etc).

How has the freelance market been for creatives as of late? Is it getting better? I’m getting no bites. I’m in NYC.

Found thread to gain status through match stream for all rental companies and 5 hotel chains

Do we need to submit rental agreement to claim HRA tax exemption in Ericsson or rental receipts enough ?

How frequent rental receipts should be ( yearly ? Or quarterly)

Opinions on AbleTo?

Hello fellow fishes, currently I am working as an Information Security Consultant and wanted to switch my career into Cloud Security.

I have around 6+ years of experience in Information Security which includes ISO 27001, NIST CSF, SOC 2 and PCI DSS.
I have also done some cloud certifications such as AZ-900, AZ-500, AWS Specialty Security and currently preparing for CCSK and CCSP.
Can anyone provide with any suggestions through which I can switch my career.

My marketing people - does anyone else's company have a dedicated "Marketing Response Team" (MRT Team)? Or something similar? Might be called something else at other companies and I just have no clue.

Is it outlandish to think I can find a decent 1B 1B apt w/ in unit washer-dryer and 15-20 min away from center city for under 1300? Have some time to do searching but don’t know if gems at this amount even exist

Love my team at work, strongly dislike upper & don't believe the leadership is there (and grossly underpaid). Been offered a job elsewhere with a ~30% increase in salary. What is one to do?

Thoughts on Code and Theory? What’s the creative strategy team like?

Seeking an opportunity at O&M as Senior director for strategy and connections planning. Any idea if $190k salary is low? Or should I ask for more.

Am I the only one who gets offers from clients with crazy unrealistic expectations about how fast a page can grow? Like no, sorry, I can’t get you 100,000 new TikTok followers within a month.

Texting someone I met on a dating app and they are adamant that text messages can’t be admitted in court as evidence. I haven’t yet told them I’m a lawyer lol. They work in tech but of course, they know all about the rules of evidence because they studied criminology at community college. 🤯

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

How do I find a therapist? I feel like it’s time. I’m tired of feeling anxious and getting worked up by the smallest QA comments.

Anyone else have bipolar disorder? I really have a hard time when my boss says I didn’t do something entirely correctly I can just completely spiral out of control if I’m in the wrong mood cont.

How do you detach your self worth from your job? I have a lot of good things in my life and generally like myself as a person, but if I feel like I’m under performing, everything else feels bad

Took my first ever sick day today on account of my very poor and worsening mental health. Just could not bring myself to put in another 14 hour day with back to back meetings and constant activity. Felt very guilty but I honestly wish I could be more honest and actually share with my manager about why I took a day off.

For those also going through this, any tips on how you manage yourself day to day? What self talk tends to help?

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

I had an interview last week and waiting is raising my anxiety. I am on anxiety medications and it doesn’t seem to help. I don’t know why I am getting anxious as I already know I can not control the

Anyone successfully take Short Term Disability for mental heath? What did you need to provide?

I manage 2 physician practices and one is extremely toxic. To the point the dr sides with staff even when I am trying to make corrective actions when patient care is in jeopardy. My leadership is aware and knows I am keeping my distance from them. Just doing the necessary work to keep them producing. How do you handle this? It’s been extremely stressful and harmful to my ptsd anxiety and depression.

Ordered a shroom grow kit and two kinds of spores. I've never taken them and always wanted to. Let's see if they do anything to rewire the brain like some people say!

Do friends ever dump you onto your therapist or psychiatrist or dismiss your valid, normal feelings as “oh did you tell your doctor about this?” I feel like they’re just shitty friends delegating off.

Feels like the world is ending and every door is closed. Couldn't even breathe. Want to find a room and lock myself in and cry

Anyone watch the clock tick away and have this endless dread of the work day starting like me. When I wake up on weekdays I dread looking at the clock. During the day I mentally start counting down how much time is left on a 30 min break, on Sundays it’s a whole different story.

Any CBd/hemp oil brands that has worked for you guys?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Last ADHD evaluation was during my adult life but too long ago. I never accepted Adderrall but now realize that I should try it. I knew people were abusing it but I didnt realize how hard the abusers

Is Friday scaries a thing? I slept last night already dreading Monday morning. It’s Saturday and I can’t enjoy the time I usually have to myself. I feel like I have to start working now so (cont.)

Potentially at an all time low - personally, professionally and emotionally. I have to believe that life’s inflection points happen for a reason. There’s a bigger lesson for me around this corner...

After months of depression and suicidal thoughts, I had a big realization that pulled me out of it.. that I’m alone in the world and I can’t rely on anyone else but myself. As a chronic people pleaser, this was liberating.