I find my expectations, or hopes rather, of WLB with kids are significantly different from consultants around me and wondering whether I’m alone (contd)

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Short answer is yes... I agree with you and want to be home as much as possible, but it is clearly at odds with the consulting life style. IMO, you do you and at some point you may decide consulting isn't for you or you'll get pushed out... Or you'll figure out how to have WBL.. but you'll always be pressured to be on the road more..

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Sorry to say this, but yes, your expectations are misaligned for this job. Extensive travel is standard, and if you can’t make that work for your new situation, you might want to consider a career change.I have two kids about 18 months apart. When the first was born I told my director that I needed to get off the road. He said, 'Congratulations! You travel to New Jersey in three weeks.' Therefore, I worked in industry for the first eight years of their life.

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2 separate discussions really impressed this in me. These were with partners who “champion” family and wlb in my firm

1 suggested to get a good night sleep with new born I should sleep the other room with ear plugs. With no appreciation that this seems to be forcing burden on partner and isn’t really shared parenting in my opinion

Then the second suggested I should be fine to travel since my partner doesn’t so there’s no problem. Again my hope is my kids to have 2 parents most of the time.

Are consultants expectations just that different to “normal” people? Since generally are a bunch of high achievers who like working 50,60,70 hour weeks?

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It’s just partners trying to make you work harder. I’ve had similar conversations, but you do what you need for wlb

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I concur. I’m afraid you simply have to leave a job that requires you to travel and spend more time at home. You can’t stay in your role and expect to have your “WLB”.

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