I got a $2,000 referral bonus for recommending my friend's husband. He thinks he deserves half of it because I wouldn't have gotten that bonus without him. Should I give him the money so I don't hurt the relationship with him and my friend?

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Ask him for half his annual salary in return

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That's ridiculous. Think of it this way, if it damages or breaks the friendship, you filtered out a crappy friend and got paid for it. Win win.

When i get people jobs via recommendations, they give me gifts/ give me a treat me somehow, not all the way around.

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Exactly. My friend who broke me into a new industry got a VERY nice steak dinner. I didn't expect or could imagine asking for the referral bonus he got for putting his name and reputation on the line for me.

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no he should not beg for half. you got him the info he got hired . tell him to piss off

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No, that is your money, he does not deserve half. I would not even think of asking for half? What kind of friend is that.

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Ungrateful

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No. He has some issues. Primarily, he doesn't understand how the bonus works.

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He wouldn't have got the job without you!

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Ask for half of his salary for half of your bonus. The only reason he got the salary for the position is for the referral you gave him.

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No don't pay him a dime, is he out of his mind? If it was not for you referring him, he would not be employed. He should be grateful, instead of asking half of the referral fee. If he goes by that principle, then he should pay you half of his salary.

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Once the federal government tax your bonus that $2000 will disappear quickly. I wouldn't give him not one red cent. Your so-called friend's husband should be thankful he has a job.

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He is ungrateful, don't give him anything. Nowadays getting even an interview is impossible yet alone a job. It's your money and if you ask me, 2k is very less he should buy you a gift as well.

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Tell him to pound sand! Doesn't sound like much of a friend. This "friend's" reward was getting the new job and compensation.

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Keep all the bonus. I think the friendship is now tainted anyway. He put you in a not so good place by requesting a portion

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by that logic you should be getting half his monthly salary because be would not be getting that without your referral. He is being cheap and ridiculous

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No and next time don’t mention anything about a referral bonus to anyone you’re referring

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That dude doesn't seem to care that you got him a job because he IS being GREEDY and UNGRATEFUL.

He is showing his true self and sad you added someone like that to the team. He didn't even seem to understand that he could do the same getting a bonus by working hard to get such an honor to bring a freind on to the team. Unless he has no friends.

Please keep your money to yourself. You deserve it. You owe him NOTHING! You gave him a job. He needs to be greatful not just for you getting him a job but that he has a wife who has a friend that help him out to do so.

His attitude will not get him ahead of he has the mindset that he is owed something. He will destroy himself with that mindset.

You just keep your money because it's YOURS. Leave that ungrateful man alone. And sorry if your friend doesn't understand that. If she doesn't, unfortunately she was never a friend.

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That’s not your friend

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Nope! Don't give him a penny! That's your money.
You are not responsible for contributing to his salary or any part of it.

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Is this for real?
Just a little hard to believe, but then again . . .
just another reason on the list why I can’t stand people.
Maybe jerkboy should send you a Thank You card & a gift cert for dinner for you sticking your neck out on his behalf.

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Tell him to go F himself!

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Will he pay you half of your taxes on the gains... ? and without you he wouldnt be getting a check. really he owes you the 2k as a finders fee for connecting him with the opportunity.

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When my friend recommended I work at his place of employment, I gave his name and we both got a $2000( Less after taxes) bonus after I stayed 3 months.

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