I got a $2,000 referral bonus for recommending my friend's husband. He thinks he deserves half of it because I wouldn't have gotten that bonus without him. Should I give him the money so I don't hurt the relationship with him and my friend?

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Ask him for half his annual salary in return

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I like this answer: yes indeedy!

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That's ridiculous. Think of it this way, if it damages or breaks the friendship, you filtered out a crappy friend and got paid for it. Win win.

When i get people jobs via recommendations, they give me gifts/ give me a treat me somehow, not all the way around.

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That may be a sign that he is not going to be a good employee. I would not give him a dime. tell his wife to explain that you did them a huge favor.

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Maybe you need to rethink that friendship.
He doesn’t have a job without you.
Personally I would not give him a dime.
It’s warped logic.

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If you give him the money to "save" the friendship, then your friendship becomes transactional. Is that what you want?

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I true friend wouldn't have put you in that position. A constant paycheck is his due and nothing more. I'd question the value of this friendship..he seems self-servicing

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Umm no
That’s a referral bonus
Has nothing to do with him

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Don't be greedy 25%.

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He’s an agreed person. He should be grateful you got him a job.  if half your bonus, it depends on your friendship then you don’t need a friend like that regardless if that’s your friend’s husband.

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If a headhunter had gotten him the job for the bonus, would they have shared? I have a policy of taking out the friend to a nice restaurant when they get "me" the job. Usually, this includes family as appropriate.

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absolutely not. his 'bonus' is your referral that helped him get the job.

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Unless you had already discussed and agreed to this before then my response would be to say this was not agreed, as your now employed here you have the opportunity to get your own referral fees going forward.

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He wouldn't have the job if you didn't refer him.

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He should be happy to have a job, these days. It is very difficult to find decent work. Too many people feel entitield to everything these days.

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Absolutely not! Makes me question how good a hire/employee he is going to be.

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makes sense as long as he gives you half his salary because without you he wouldn’t have had the job

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The referral was sent to you. You get to decide how it is spent not them. It would be one thing if you brought the attention to them that you would like to split it, in stead of them forcing you too. Do what you want but don't let them bully you.

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You don’t owe anybody any money. You did your part. You helped them. It’s up to you if you want to share. Some people are quite greedy and they want their cut too. In this case, you do not owe anybody anything unless you told them that you would give them something in return for it. Some people have hidden agendas. Be careful.

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It’s a Referral bonus…not a sign-on bonus.

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No. That is dumb!

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Personally, I usually would take my friend out to a nice dinner with a part of the bonus money. I wouldn't give them money directly, but do something extra with them, and spend that time together talking about work related stuff; it's a business dinner, not entertaining.

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In this market? His bonus is being employed. Maybe you should seek half of his yearly bonus, since he wouldn't have had it without you.

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My gosh he was blessed to getting the job, because of you . Wow!

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