I got a $2,000 referral bonus for recommending my friend's husband. He thinks he deserves half of it because I wouldn't have gotten that bonus without him. Should I give him the money so I don't hurt the relationship with him and my friend?

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Ask him for half his annual salary in return

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I like this answer: yes indeedy!

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That's ridiculous. Think of it this way, if it damages or breaks the friendship, you filtered out a crappy friend and got paid for it. Win win.

When i get people jobs via recommendations, they give me gifts/ give me a treat me somehow, not all the way around.

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That may be a sign that he is not going to be a good employee. I would not give him a dime. tell his wife to explain that you did them a huge favor.

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It’s called an employee referral bonus, not employee plus Friend bonus

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This is why you can’t refer everyone 😕, he was looking for a job…you were not looking for a bonus. You put in a good word for him to get the job and you got rewarded with the bonus, while he got rewarded with an annual salary. The fact that this person can’t see that shows they have bad character and very greedy. Hopefully this does not show up in other places at the company and jeopardize your job.

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Depending on my financial situation, I might have kicked him back $200, but if he does a bad job, it looks bad on you, so there is a risk involved with any referral.

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His expectation is ridiculous. I have dine the same multiple times and they are usually very grateful and take me to dinner or send flowers.

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This is insane! You got him a job and he wants you to pay him? If your friend breaks of your relationship than you not only got a bonus but cleaned house too. That's a twofer , Crushing it!

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SO...you got him a job, and he wants your money? "A friend of my friend is my...", it looks like, unless you agreed to split it before referring or told your friend "I can get a referral bonus if I refer your husband successfully." It's getting into ick territory, but ask a few questions: 1. does your friend stand by you to keep the referral bonus, and it's only the husband that's the problem? 2. Will you be working with this husband in your day-to-day work? 3. Did your referral actually help him get the job (i.e. if SM says he's good people, we should seriously think about him)? Ultimately, what does your friend say about it him/herself and how much do you treasure this friendship?

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U are a sales person right?
Its like you selling your product to another company and that company asking for your commission after the the sales

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Sure, if he is going to give you half his pay, benefits, and
bonuses.

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if thats how the refferal bonus worked he wouldn’t have to ask you he would have gotten his own. He should be thanking you for the referral and not demanding a ”share”

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Ask your friend what you should do And if she agrees with him tell them you might have to file a complaint to HR that your friendhusband is difficult to work with

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I would give him half, what he is saying makes sense.. it’s the same principle if you had a friend that recommended you their friend.. would you not give them the half? He’s no different

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Do NOT give him anything. By the time they tax it, it will not be $2,000 anyway. Plus if that ends the friendship she was never your friend anyway. Moving forward ever discuss Nomuses ever with anyone.

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If here was no prior agreement to share the money, you are not expected to hand over cash. Instead, it is customary to celebrate their successful hiring and onboaboarding.

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Hell no.......he should just be happy that he got the job.

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The referall bonus would have been payable to you whether the successful candidate was your husband or not. It's payable to you for your successful procurement of the candidate and nothing else.

It's a rare scenario that you know the candidate, but had it been anyone else it wouldn't even be debatable that the successful candidate wouldnt be entitled to that money.

He should respect that but, if necessary to keep the peace, consider paying him something.

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Ask him if he understands performs do you get your money back! 😉

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There are a lot of unanswered questions and this is a one-sided explanation. Was he a guarantee for the job prior to the referral? Did he know that you were referring him? Did he ask you to refer him? Basically what I am asking is did you just throw the referral out there because you knew he would get the job and you would get the referral payout or did the referral actually have an impact on him getting the job? I have kept the money when the referral was asked for and it supported the person's placement and I have shared the money when a friend was an excellent candidate and most likely would have gotten the job with or without my assistance. If you did it without him asking, share it. If he asked, it is yours.

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You are putting your reputation on the line for your friend's husband by recommending him. You didn't have to do that. Who will look bad if he washes out? I think he should be grateful for the job referral. By your going out of your way you are giving him a means to support his family. Sorry but he got some balls to ask you for anything more. He should just say Thank you. No good deed goes unpunished.

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You dont need a friend that would demand this of you.
You got a bonus, he got a job.
If he wants half the bonus, you should get half of his first months pay for helping him get the job.

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Absolutely not. You enjoy the $2,000 bonus. You can give them a $100 gift card if you wanted to for a nice celebration dinner on landing the job. At the end of the day he wouldn't have known about the position without your referral so you don't owe anyone anything.

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