I have a huge crush on my mentor which is why I started this bowl. Curious if anyone else has had any experience with this?.. I’m a young female and he’s about 10 years older.

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You can't control your feelings. What you can control is how you act - and you shouldn't create an uncomfortable workplace for your mentor by ever acting on these feelings.

Romance does not belong in the workplace, period. People come to work, and especially if he's older, that means he's less likely to keep his emotional self at work. Don't shit where you eat.

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Who hurt you ED1?

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Did things ever get weird? Am I dumb for crushing on my mentor?

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