How can I get my *micro* manager off my back? I know I haven’t been doing the best work this quarter, but emailing me all damn day isn’t going to help me do better, I do know that.

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It sounds like the only way to get them off your back is to improve your performance. I know if my employee wasn't performing, I would be checking in a lot more often until I saw they could stand on their two feet again.

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I would make the boss a deal. I would follow everything your boss says to do and see what kind of result you get. Sounds like your boss is getting heat and it’s rolling down to you. See if you can get your boss out for a drink. Just a suggestion. Good luck!

Micro managers suuuuck. I’ve dealt with a few. Ride alongs get stacked appointments through lunch 7am to 6pm. Phone calls not answered, and follow up text with “what do you need…talking with customer”. emails go unanswered for a few hours or until I get multiple. Then I answer them as short as possible all in one.

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If you figure it out, please tell me. I basically had to have several sessions f working through different styles of communication to figure out what works best. I think it's always a work in progress to get that balance right but some people make it waaayyyy harder than it needs to be

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This is how I feel. It shouldn't be this difficult.

The first step is to build their trust. Regularly deliver and excel in your work. In doing so, they would be able to have confidence in you doing what they expect you to with initiative. Second, feed into it and give them exactly what they want. A taste of their own medicine, if you will. Constantly feed them with progress reports before they even get the chance to ask. They'll get tired of hearing from you soon enough.

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Ohhh, I like how you think. Maybe I can get ahead of it by sending updates several times daily. Love it! Thanks!

Oh. That sounds more like a boyfriend than a manager. Set boundaries and reply only during office hours.

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That's how it feels. But not the good kind of boyfriend, that's for sure.

Time to have a straight up conversation...you can ask for the time 1v1 and set the record straight. Being micro managed only distracts you from your tasks at hand.

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Email him with your boundaries. It is never a good thing when managers do this. It's toxic and counter-productive. But before you do message him, look it up thoroughly how to handle the situation without offending. Good luck!

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Thanks! Do you have any tips? I feel well-equipped to set boundaries with my kids but not my boss. It makes me feel nauseous just thinking about it.

Get a taller manager?

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but also I ended up quitting OP, it wasn't worth dealing with

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Here's something that worked for me— mirror their behavior. Give them exactly what they expect: you constantly delivering and providing them progress on your output. They'll start seeing their own behaviors in you and will eventually stop bugging because they see themselves in you.

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Ha ha ha

I guess we're on the same boat if not under the same micro-manager. Lol. I could definitely use some tricks (tips don't help at this point). I really like that "mirror their behavior" thing Sales Analyst 1 suggested.

Turn it around and bug them with your progress reports. They wouldn't feel the need to check up on you all the time if they're alrwady getting what they want. I'm sure they'll back off afterwards.

Yikes! That's a total turn-off for me. But maybe that's what the company tells him/her to do.

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