I have a sneaking suspension that one of my coworkers is telling half stories to my boss. How to I approach it?

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What’s giving you the sneaky suspicion? Did you overhear it? Or did certain things you’ve only told one person come up with your manager? Depending on the coworker and your relationship to them, I’d address it head on. Don’t make it a full on accusation/problem, address it as “Hey, them hearing only certain things out of context could paint me in a really different light and I’m uncomfortable knowing you’re repeating our conversations.” Mentally note that regardless of how well they may take the convo, you can’t trust them much anymore.

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