I make sure birthdays/holidays are celebrated. I ensure they get a signed card and gc, if they are part of the office staff, get their favorite treat (I secretly find out what they like). But when my birthday came around…nothing. They knew it was my birthday as someone spilled the beans. I know they like me. What gives? It’s not like I can ethically give myself a gc, and it would be awkward to ask people to sign a card or bring a treat. Am I wrong to think someone else needs to step in for me?

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Someone should definitely step up for you but it's one of those classic situations where everybody else is assuming somebody else is taking care of it… Especially because you are usually the one who does it. I'm sorry they let you down and you're right to be disappointed. But happy birthday 😊

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I’m sorry to hear that happened to you. Some places don’t appreciate specially when is department heads. I once in my birthday bought cupcakes and share it with my staff. Your manager and my manager should’ve taken the initiative and done that.

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Sounds like you work with a bunch of 'takers' who are happy to receive but don't put in the effort to return the favor.

I wouldn't be organizing anything else for anyone - period.

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Additionally, I tried to keep my birthday secret to avoid this awkwardness, but since everyone knew, it feels super awkward, especially since another employee has a birthday the day after that I had to make sure was celebrated. I normally wouldn’t care, but it just seems weird to me, especially since I’ve seen them celebrating birthdays for others that crossover between the office and production staff, which is what I am also involved in. No one acknowledged my birthday even though they knew. It was just so demoralizing. I wouldn’t have cared if I was able to keep it secret, but it feels different when people know.

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I wish to work in this environment in the leadership of such a Manager. Tell me your birth date, you will receive a birthday gift every year.

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Do you have a friend in the office that you can hint to to step up and do it? I've never been at an office that did this so I don't know how it would usually work.

I think you needed to self promote your birthday too and celebrate yours just like you do for everyone else. Everyone seems to be following your lead on celebrations so of course no one stepped up for you. Plus you saying you were trying to keep it secret so that is the outcome you got. Anyway, there's nothing wrong with little self promotion

Just to make the point (and perhaps make them realize what they did/didn't do), perhaps buying yourself that cake, gift card, and circulating YOUR OWN BD card for signatures would be the 'ah-ha' moment they need.

But I sort of doubt it.

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You are so thoughtful to take care of employees in that way. It really means alot to staff when the company does something nice like this.

Your Manager should take the initiative to do this for you as I am sure they are aware of your special day since they hired you.

I ordered a couple dozen Bundlets on my birthday! My associates were happy to celebrate🤣 Can't wait on someone to bring you flowers 🤷🏼‍♀️

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