I moved to LA recently from NYC and I’ve been struggling to make friends. Not sure if it’s the effects of the pandemic and I’m more socially awkward now but I’m struggling to make friends with other moms. I have a hard time being myself. I’m homesick and anxious all the time. Any advice?

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Unfortunatley LA is like that mom or not, just give it time. It took me 2 years to find a groove here. It can be tough but it helps you strengthen your ability to enjoy being alone.

Do you go into the office? That would make a HUGE difference. I met all of my friends through work, directly and indirectly.

You’ve got this!

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I second the 2 year rule in LA!

I've meet some of my best friends in classes / workshops for hobbies. It's always refreshing to meet people out of work. :) Hope it helps.

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It may be the realities of the advertising culture and locations in LA makes it hard to connect on anything less superficial. I am a native and never even went to Santa Monica, west side or playa vista etc. until working in advertising. I agree that finding classes, hiking, rock climbing gyms may be the best option. Or going into the office. That repetition of seeing people is so important but so hard to do. There is a mom walking group in many areas but I agree making friends is still hard. It’s not just in LA there are tons of articles about the difficulty in making friends as adults. NYC is almost built to constantly be socializing with people from all over but most cities don’t have that built in. I find it hard to make friends with being a parent, the juggling of the very little free time you do have and the laundry list of things to do for yourself or the home etc. I am in the area (very north of LA) if you want to connect!

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Having been raised and most of my working career in NYC I find this true no matter where I move. I am always feeling out of place. The way I relate and communicate is just different. In regards to LA, I found the general interests of people very different and not friendly. Very based on how one looks and fitness.

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