I used to fool around a lot until I met my bf and I don’t see myself ever cheating now. Even though he’s loyal especially since he’s dating his dream girl and someone out of his league. I still catch myself worrying that he might cheat and it’s been making me anxious. How to stop these thoughts?

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Go to therapy to deal with the guilt, apologize to exes if needed (and if it also helps them at this stage!), and never ever cheat on your man (whether this one or the next, hopefully you never have a “next” now)

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Maybe monogamy isn’t for you; if therapy isn’t your jam- take a look at ethical non-monogamy.

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Good on you to have enough experience to acknowledge the reality that people can cheat and it’s relatively simple to do so.Communication is going to be your biggest tool. Set boundaries of what is and isn’t ok when encountering the opposite gender and stick to that boundary. Eg, my SO and I aren’t allowed to get 1:1 dinner with the opposite gender unless it’s under extenuating circumstances and discussed before.

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If my wife dressed like you, I’d cheat on her.

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And if my husband had your personality, I'd cheat on him, too

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I missed these types of posts lol

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I find it odd that not many people are calling out the egotistical line “dating his dream girl and someone out of his league”.

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And then the pic with sweatshirt and no shape

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It doesn't matter how out of his league you are (or think you are). Men can still cheat on you.

Even some of those beautiful women like Halle Berry, Elizabeth Hurley, Jennifer Garner, Sienna Miller, Behati Prinsloo were all cheated on - and at least half of them were out of the league of their partner.

I'm not saying that all men cheat, I'm saying that being "out of his league" isn't the safety net you think it is.

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You could put your arm around him.

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You are shy but yet you can go out and find other guys to cheat with? Not buying it.

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That looks like my hoodie

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Matching hoodie

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You and me both sister

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You definitely need therapy, no matter how absurd.

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When you say fool around a lot? Do you mean you used to cheat a lot when in previous relationships?

The fact that you feel this way and that you feel that your his “dream-girl” does not equate to him ever not cheating on you. Cheating is always a possibility but the root cause to want to cheat is the analysis that should be performed.

What caused you to cheat in previous relationships? If you can answer that and work towards those issues then perhaps he won’t cheat on you.

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Therapy OP

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🤨🤨🤥🤥🤥🤥🤥🤥🤥🤥

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Anything every woman is on this table…

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Is that what I bring to the table

The thing that stands out to me here is the ‘out of his league’ comment. Your awareness of it is likely a subconscious safety net that he wouldn’t cheat on you. And you’re right, he likely won’t. That said, at some point you’ll get over the fear and find yourself in a place where you’re dating down, and at a point in the relationship where he’s ready to commit. Focus on yourself and finding an equal peer, not someone that won’t hurt you.

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I think the only way to truly guarantee no cheating is having an open relationship lol

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Open communications. Guard rails. Yeah I think it can

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How long have you been with your bf?

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1 year

What’s the point of the random photo?

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His dream girl out of his league? Lmao deluluuuu

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You probably need to do some grafting. Looks smaller.

How many times did you cheat?

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