If toddler insists you stay in the room while they try to fall asleep, do you indulge? Some nights I do because a break is nice (like right now I'm sitting in the rocker), but I think I need to be consistent night over night so I don't confuse him and make him upset. Maybe we put a cap at 10 minutes...thoughts?

P.S. Expecting baby #2 soon and know staying in his room every night won't be sustainable. If left alone, he'll cry for 5 min on a good night; on bad night, he'll scream cry for 20 min

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Totally up to you but yes consistency is key. My husband and I **consistently** lay with our 7yo and 3yo to fall asleep each night. We prefer it to the fighting and “training” and know it will have a natural end. But fair warning the natural end is not 7 🙃

New baby on the way here too but I’m not worried about that one until he’s out of the crib. Until then, he has minimal demands.

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When we’re trying to push a “grow up” moment, we hype an upcoming birthday. For 7, it was “7 year olds stay in their bed all night” since mine used to come to my room at like 3am. This worked for thumb sucking at 4, but didn’t work for being alone in his room at 6 so your mileage may vary but worth a shot!

Always 😊

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Always, lay down for like 30-45 mins each night. Talk, say stories, sing songs - you name it. Is it tiring? Yes, but I also don’t have another one and for me it’s my time with him (or dads depending on who’s doing bedtime), since he’s at daycare the rest of the day :)

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This is exactly what I was thinking. Kids need one on one time as well as adults and bedtime is usually when kids spill their hearts out, at least mine does and she’s a tween now. I will never get rid of this because these time with her as she tells me everything on her heart is some of the most precious time ever spent for both of us.

Mom of two, two and under. Try and be consistent. Having a sleep trained toddler will be your saving grace when the baby arrives. It’s hard in the moment but the consistency will be better for everyone in the long run. Good luck!

My daughter doesn’t sleep without my touch. She wakes as soon as i move even to the loo. She has been like that till almost 4. Now shes 4.5 and she just started to sleep without me next to her but she still needs someone to rock her to sleep. Im not sure where you are but here we cosleep and personally i cant leave her seperately.
If it helps you kid sleeps on his own before new baby arrives and hes almost used to it you can do so as if you try to do now he may get habituated later but again try to spend some time when hes awake.

I see no benefit in kids crying to sleep. It seems such a harsh way to end the day. I would explain to the kid in bed that mommy has to go. Gently dismiss any resistance. If he was super insistent I would cap it at 5-10 mins of cuddles and he would fall asleep while I was in bed.
I later made it my doom scrolling time to make it less of a pain for me to just lie there 😅

My 6 year old doesn't settle down until I leave so waiting for her to fall asleep would be a nightmare considering it'd never happen. I spend 20 minutes laying with her and then tell her sweet dreams and she dozes off shortly after.

Get them a special new lovey, tell them the lovey scared to sleep by themselves, and could they be brave for the lovey so the lovey isn’t scared at night. If that doesn’t work try slowly reducing the amount of time you spend in their room. There’s nothing wrong with a little snuggle time, but whatever you do… DO NOT fall asleep in their bed. They’ll get used to having you there for long periods of time and won’t want to sleep by themselves. Ask me how I know 😅

I stay with both my kids, age 9 and 5. They insist on sleeping in the same room too haha.

Taking cara babies framework for sleeping training is a god send.

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