If you buy a house before marriage . How do you all split the bills? P.s - my partner will be moving with me as it is cheaper that way but really confuse on how to go about the bills etc

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Same opinions apply, man or woman. Do you think you should be treated differently because you’re a woman? Didn’t realize it mattered - I thought equality was the goal here. You’re the one that made it matter. Good luck with the marriage. In fact, men tend to be less loyal. Once you have a baby, he will see you differently. If anything, these opinions might be stronger, not weaker. I know many men that say they’re ok with it, but eventually see it as an affront if they’re not paying most of the mortgage or making less than their wife (right or wrong).

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If it’s not super serious, then split evenly. I never understand separate finances if you’re married/partnered. It would be extremely hard to achieve your financial goals without 100% alignment. If you’re that serious to buy a house together and presumably get married, then you should have the same shared goals or it’s just not going to work anyways. Financial stress is like the #1 killer of relationships.

For example, If you make 100k and your partner makes 100k, with combined 200k, you’d want to buy the appropriate house, cars and budget based on that total number. Then save accordingly as well. Making those decisions separately, you’ll afford less, save less, and your partner may spend 1k on car payments while you drive an old Honda. You see it all the time.

Our dual income goes into the same checking account and we don’t look at it as separate income, we pay all necessary bills from it since we both need to drive, eat, sleep, we shop a bit, and then save/invest the rest in stocks or high yield. Our names are on all accounts and as beneficiaries. We generally assume we’ll be together forever. If for some reason that doesn’t work, it’s split evenly. Or you’re just battling it out in court and giving away most of it anyways.

Considering you may be before that point, then split things evenly but have those conversations! I really believe it’s one of the most important things to be open about in your relationship.

Op said they are getting married next week

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I’m in CA. Parents never married, split after 25 years and my father pays my mother alimony for life and she got the house too.

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