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Pay this time but give them a hard time about it later so they know it bothers you
This might be the most authentic way to approach it.
They are your friends. Just pay.
Um do they not recall the night? Make it obvious, but you also don’t want to be a kill joy! Pay it forward and next time over drink on their tab!
As of others of said, good friends just pay. I have lost track the amount of times my good group of friends have bought drinks or I paid for them.
Good friends? Pay.
I say something but they should too.
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I’d say something
You need more better considerate friends.
Well, if you split the bill then you split the bill. You could’ve avoided this situation if you would have paid for your drink separately (secretly before they sent the big bill). I feel that it’s annoying and you have the right to say something. But it will definitely come off as cheap (justified or not). Especially if it means that now everyone has to do a 2nd 5$ venmo.
Lol I guess I come across as cheap to my friends. I don’t drink so always ask to split just based on food
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Very close friends - pay
Good friends and this happens like ince in a month _ pay
Acquaintance and very high frequency - share your concern and change your group
^ THIS
And be smarter about it next time. Pay for your own stuff. Or offer to pay and put the whole bill on splitwise or something like it.
Depends if I think I’ll eventually even out. Like if I plan to drink a lot more next time we go out, I’d probably pay. But if I’m on a long term diet where one drink is nearly always my max, I’ll speak up — however, I tend to do it up front so I can get a separate check and no one has to deal with it. Or I can give the person paying cash BEFORE they calculate the Venmo payment. If you didn’t say anything first, I’d just pay this time and mention it next time.
That’s what I was thinking, EY3. If we usually drink about the same amount, but I’m just stopping at 1 tonight (on medication, have to be up early tomorrow, whatever), I’d just pay and figure it would even out in the long run. If I’m with a friend who never has more than 1, or a group that drinks much more than I do, I’d have separate tabs from the get-go.
I’m not paying $25 extra. I would just tell them I had one drink and it wasn’t $25 dollars. I’d even pay a bit more than I owe but not that much more.
Completely concur. I have several friend groups that split correctly and politely. Set the tone now for good habits. Everyone has different sensitivities to money; it’s best to be with friends who respect that.
I would say I’ll pay this time guys but next time we should be considerate of what everyone ordered before splitting the bill evenly. The general rule should be if the person that ordered the least amount offers to split the bill, then do it. Otherwise, no one else should suggest or offer to split the bill.
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$25? No, don’t play the I only ate one mozzarella stick game. If it were more, absolutely. Once did a large bachelor party in Vegas and at the time I wasn’t drinking at all, but I still contributed the equal split of $800 for the table min and drank Diet Coke all night. By the time all the girls came through and the guys went nuts, the organizer sent out requests for an additional $1200 from each person to cover the overages. I flat out declined and said I didn’t drink $2000 in Diet Coke.
The price of fun! Be glad it was only $25.
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Just send what you owe and say you bought 1 drink
You clearly feel slighted so just speak up. Paying is only going to make you feel like somebody owes you something. There's nothing wrong with only wanting to be accountable for what you spend.
But make sure whatever you send includes drink, taxes, and tip (and possibly service charge for a large group). If it basically equals $25, then just pay it and next time don't do a large group thing if you're tight on money. You could also just go to the bar separately and close out your tab when you get what you want.
if my very close friends did that, i would just tell them. I know them well enough to know that they will never think i am being cheap.
all other scenarios- i would pay and be careful next time