I’m an ambivert starting out in consulting. I hate small talk and find happy hours typically less than engaging. I become enervated with too much loudness. Any tips for navigating consulting?

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I had a hard time with small talk until I memorized a set of questions that get people talking about themselves. That seems to be a favorite topic of people who like small talk.

I still dread doing because I don't actually want to sit there absorbing their answer...

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Drink?

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You do you OP! Ambivert here and I have survived and thrived.

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You can Google a ton of them. I like asking what people are truly passionate about. They can talk through two drinks with that one if you just keep softly probing.

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Enervated?

What questions do you usually ask?

That can feel like an interview ...

Ambivert here too 🤗👍. What’s worked for me is practicing on not caring what others think. It’s huge

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