I get really giggly when I’m nervous, and laugh at basically everything anyone says. It makes me appear quite immature in front of client & coworkers... Any tips on how to calm my nerves?

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Nervous laughter is a behaviour . You May need to practise a counter behaviour based on the triggers. Google a few habit breaking articles and try figuring out the most common triggers. Then you need practise breaking the older default reaction of nervous laughter. This May take a few months but is similar to any other habit. I just left compulsive eating so can tell you awareness helps self discipline. Best of luck!

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Thank you! That’s a great tip, I’ll start from there. Congrats on breaking the habit! This gives me hope :)

Try to tone it down to just smiling

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But thank you for your reply! :)

Why is laughing immature? Shouldn’t we all be laughing more?

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Some day corps & consultants will learn to lighten up and we can all be a bit more natural. Until then, best of luck polishing your poise— like anything, it comes with practice.

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M1, big difference between giggling and laughing. Btw I laugh a lot and sometimes at the clients situation 🤣

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When you want to giggle, take a deep breath and smile instead. It’s a nervous habit, so use the trigger to create a new habit. Don’t nod - that turns into another habit that needs to be broken. Just a gentle smile and a calm, inconspicuous deep breath to help you focus externally on the situation at hand. You’re nervous because you think others are seeing how you’re feeling (nervous), but they’re not - until you attract attention by giggling. Breathe in for a count of 4, out for a count of 3. You’ve got this! The flood of oxygen to your brain will also help calm and focus you

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Thank you! You’re spot on, I tried nodding as a counter behaviour and now I’m constantly nodding when people talk. I will try to stay calm with the breathing tips. Thank you!

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In addition... I have really serious blushing issues and turn super red. It’s so embarrassing and I’m not sure how to get that under control

Thought I was the only one who struggled with this. It's so embarrassing but I can't help it!

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