I’m on the leadership team at my company. We grade all our staff on job effectiveness, company values and other factors. There’s a huge disconnect between my and others’ perception of my number 2. They think I have blind spots regarding her. I think they’re incredibly unfair. Examples they cite seem so immaterial and the feedback on her seems rude and not constructive relative to feedback on others. Never experienced such a disconnect. Feels like I’m fighting a war I can’t win. Any advice?

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Help her then. Its not a war. Even if it is You have to win the hearts. Nicely give her a feedback and let her know how she can adjust her tone.

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Overall it seems for whatever reason they don’t like her in general it can be she is an underperformer, it can be jelousy, racism many things who knows. Whatever you do, dont get involve in some drama.

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Please give examples…

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Whoever called her stupid, deprived you of the opportunity to receive feedback to help the employee improve. And it’s very disrespectful. Of course you aren’t going to take feedback of that kind seriously because it isn’t feedback at all. I would take the other comments that seem small, as an opportunity to help your number two improve. How she is perceived by other leaders in your company is important, so take their feedback and help her grow even more. I love that you go to bat for her, that makes you a great leader!!

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Give examples. Nothing worse than getting feedback with no examples and not just from the past but ongoing in the future if they come up again with this person.

In my opinion, Completely unfair and destroys any confidence or solid feeling of self worth if there are no examples.

Need examples and gender of those citing immaterial feedback

I see the feedback now. First, it blows me away that someone called her stupid- incredibly childish. I asked about gender because women communicate and prioritize information differently and I’ve often wondered if women get pushed aside subconsciously because how they communicate doesn’t match male speak.

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