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Read tafsir of surah Ibrahim verse 8 on gratitude. Nouman Ali khan has a great video on it titled how gratitude shapes our lives. Life changing and made work much easier
Do talk to a doctor, take stress management take medicine. Eg for me Sertaline was able to help bring down baseline anxiety a lot so I could start doing good habits.
Dont be hard on yourself islamically, Allah doesn’t undervalue your pain and he wishes for you ease. Stay close with him in every affair and learn more about Islam without overburdening yourself. If you ever slip or become distant don’t be afraid of repenting if your alive the door of repentance is open and Allah wants to see you walk through it.
Have you reached out to a therapist? As well - it sounds like you are pursuing happiness - which often leads to unhappiness. I am not the first to note - but pursuing meaning often leads to contentment. what’s the difference? When we focus on happiness we often don’t want to do the hard thing because it’s pursuit may lead to discomfort or even hardship. When we purse meaning we are often willing to endure pain and hardship to achieve what gives us meaning. So let’s say you want to address a lack of sense of community - maybe that’s a sign for you to get involved in one - I am certain there are hundreds of of institutions that could use a well educated consultant. It may not be easy to balance work and volunteerism - but that sense of connection may give you the strength you need. Good luck!
Same here. Maladaptive dreaming helps me.
I’ve been to the psych ward almost 20 times starting from age 15. I even was forced to move out of my home as doctors thought my parents weren’t giving me my medicine. Alhumdulillah almost 15 years later, I am med free for about 6 years which is the longest I’ve been so far without a hospitalization.
I do get ideation from time to time, but typically when I’m close to my cycle.
i am laying the foundation, so I can share what helped me. Not trying to trauma olympics.
i would say evaluate your stressors and remove them. When I did my first stint of psych ward stays, I was facing honors kid burnout and was a vegetarian who ate honey buns, taco bell(shockingly veg friendly), and pizza. My diet was outrageous. There was no structure. This cycle went on for about two years.
The second cycle was about 2 years as well. It started with me working 5 jobs, in hindsight not sure why I did that, but it was always Allah’s plan. I was without a car in a city that wasn’t public transport/uber friendly, so I’d get off work at midnight, often walk home, get home by about 1, “eat” and my first alarm for my next job was at 4:45 because I had to catch the bus to a toxic 9-5 which I thought was my dream job. As a result of this cycle my eating was not good at all. No longer a vegetarian but eating a sleeve of little Debbie’s for dinner, because nothing was open, and we weren’t allowed to eat food aside from snacks at one of my night jobs.
As you can see the trend was high stress/diet. I was on almost every pill, but I would just turn into a non-functioning zombie with weight gain I am still struggling to get off today. Part of the reason I won’t entertain a relationship is this cause I know how bad it gets. As a hijabi, I was often finding myself naked in the hospitals whilst also feeling no sense of self control or awareness of my surroundings.
from a religious perspective, I wasn’t praying. It’s wild to me that I’ve only started praying without consciously missing a prayer 6 years ago. I think that is something that has been a major help for me.
I personally don’t believe yoga is a halal practice, but honestly it seems to be a cure for bipolar, depression, anxiety, and stretch.
And fixing my diet, I was getting zero-no nutrients. If you look at Miley Cyrus, who was also once a vegetarian, she had to introduce fish b/c of how it impacted her brain. I often see the mirrors.
Therapy is something I can see as being beneficial to some, but it honestly isn’t something that worked for me because when you’re zombied out on the meds, the only thing that at least in my case that I was doing was sleeping, barely eating, barely taking care of hygiene, and doom scrolling. I went to therapy throughout each cycle and got nothing.
Would highly highly suggest a licensed muslim therapist as they would be someone who understands the nuances of our religion. I.e. fasting whilst on meds, family importance in religion. i am out of characters to comment.
As some others have mentioned, a therapist can definitely help understand the deeper things at play and provide some tools to help.
Remember Allah doesn’t give a soul that which it can’t handle - you are capable and this will pass.
You mention community - in younger generations this is becoming increasingly tough. Perhaps there’s a deeper calling you can align to create communities on your interests.
Are you worried about future and over thinking it? What exactly are you struggling with?
A little bit of that but mostly it’s been personal life. I’m just not happy… I don’t have many strong friendships, a sense of community, a lot of family or a partner. I just feel kind of empty and that makes me struggle
Start your morning and end your night with 5-10 things that you’re grateful for. In the beginning this will be annoying but as it becomes habitual you will see the drastic change. You will also start to attract the right people.