In a new job and my manager saw through my impostor syndrome. He said it out loud that I need to work on my confidence and overcome my insecurity.
I constantly feel like I’m surrounded by people smarter than me and I doubt myself a lot. I’m scared everyone sees through my impostor syndrome and feel horrible about myself.

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I’m so sorry to hear this, OP. I don’t have an easy solve for this, but I hosted an Impostor Syndrome workshop at my company and brought in Dr. Valerie Young who founded the Impostor Syndrome Institute. She’s done some TED talks, and was really great.

https://impostorsyndrome.com/

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If they are smart they wouldn’t be at EY. I wish my manager told me this 🤪

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I wouldn’t take this as a negative here. It doesn’t sound like they’re saying you’re an imposter. It sounds like they are saying you are better than you think, you should work on your confidence to align to your real skills. Easier said than done, of course, but it sounds like this manager believes in you?

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Mine just said this too, I'm going to check out the suggestion.

No one knows everything.

Consultants get themselves effed up when they think they should be the expert. We also fail when we allow our clients to suffer the same delusion.

Our job is to manage a process to help the client make a decision or achieve an outcome. You need some fundamental domain knowledge and experience helps, but more importantly you need a learning mindset that asks insightful questions. Ever notice how issue trees are questions…

A shift in approach like that can help relieve some of the tension around imposture syndrome.

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