Took my first ever sick day today on account of my very poor and worsening mental health. Just could not bring myself to put in another 14 hour day with back to back meetings and constant activity. Felt very guilty but I honestly wish I could be more honest and actually share with my manager about why I took a day off.

For those also going through this, any tips on how you manage yourself day to day? What self talk tends to help?

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I hope that one day talking about mental health issues become normal.

Here is what I do to stay sane:
Take 5 minute walks
Alternate bw tasks
Do 5 minute sketches
Drink lots of water
Have healthy snacks
Read fiction for 5 mns
Meditate for 5 minutes
Call my brother or friends once in a while even if it’s for 10 minutes
Actually, I just do any activity that makes me happy even if it is for 5 minutes.

Good luck OP.

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Glad you prioritised yourself today. Nothing wrong with putting your needs above work sometimes. Don’t feel guilty.

As for mental health, I stopped working with a toxic manager and I feel so much better already. So, even though I work long hours, I enjoy being around these people.

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Getting in any time to exercise during the day, that tends to help me

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Definitely empathize. Sending you lots of positive vibes. Is there any way you can plan a 1-2 week vacation? With enough notice, your team should be able to plan accordingly.

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