Is it rude/weird to plan your own bachelorette party? I opted not to have a bridal party. I have nine friends I would have asked and no sisters. I would have wanted a smaller party than that and I didn’t want to choose. Also my fiancé is introverted and only has one or two close friends he would have asked. I am having some close friends to stay at the venue with me and get ready with me the morning of. A few people have offered but no one has stepped up to take the lead on a bachelorette (cntd)

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Not weird at all, but if you don’t want to plan it, ask a friend who likes planning trips to take the lead. Your friends might feel weird stepping up since they’re not technically your bridesmaids, but if you clarify expectations, I’m sure someone would love to plan it for you!

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I think you are probably right! I’ve had a couple of them mention doing a bachelorette activity for me if I want. Lots of offers to help too that I haven’t taken anyone up on! I am very fortunate to be working with a wonderful planner and have super involved parents so I haven’t needed a lot of help so far. I hate asking people to do things for me (another reason I didn’t go with bridesmaids!).

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I don’t think that’s weird. Maybe just set expectations with your friends so they know what you’re planning and what role (if any) they should have

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Thank you! I started googling and there is a lot out there about how rude it is to plan your own bachelorette. I can totally see how it would be weird to plan something and then demand they pay for me, but definitely not going to do that!

I don’t expect them to since they aren’t my bridesmaids! Is it weird to organize it myself? It’s the one pre-wedding event I wanted (a weekend away with my close friends). And I would not be asking anyone to pay for me! I am also considering covering the entire Airbnb. Thoughts?

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I don’t think it’s rude to plan your own bachelorette party. It’s only rude if you plan a lot of extravagant activities for yourselves then stick the bills to your friends. I’m the planner in my group of friends, and I had a small courthouse wedding without bridesmaids. I got my friends together and coordinated dates, I then booked the Airbnb and split the cost, everyone booked their own air travels. I didn’t make any suggestions and just let my friends decide what they would like to incorporate to the trip. It was a nice and relaxing weekend with people that I love!

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My fiancé planned his bachelor party. It’s not a big deal. It’s your party—you want it how you want it and you are relieving your friends the burden of planning it. As long as you are open to paying your own way, it’s fine!

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I don’t think it’s rude at all. I’d prefer to do the same if I didn’t have a sister who wanted to plan. I’m sure there are some traditionalists out there who might think it’s weird to plan you’re own bachelorette…but who cares what they think, they’re probably boring!

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I planned my own bachelorette. I wasn't planning to have a bachelorette party since my friends are kind of everywhere but we did end up having it. I shared with them my agenda but was open to changes / ideas. I don't think it's rude. On the contrary, I think it clearly communicated what you want to do instead of having your friends play the guessing game

I’m only having a moh, so I asked her and other close friend to plan it! My fiancé isn’t having any groomsmen at all so kind of in your same boat w a super small bridal party (of 1).

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